We have been together 11 years married 3 of them. We now have a 3 month old son. While I was pregnant and even before he has always helped a little around the house. Now he does nothing. I even have to remind him to take the trash out. I do everything down to changing every single one of my son's diapers and feeding him. We both work, so therefore, our son stays at the sitters during the day. From the time that my Husband gets home from work til he goes to bed. He sits in front of the TV. Rarely does he hold our son or show him any attention.<p>Please let me know if anyone else is in this suitation or has been. <p>Please Help.<p>Sorry so long.<p>Thanks,

Dear Winnie<p>I think you have the wrong idea about our particular forum. The people here are dealing with probably the most devastating thing that can happen in their lives...a child born out of an affair.<p>In my case, I am the Betrayed Spouse. My husband had a short fling three years ago today which produced a child that is just over two years old now. I have been coming to this site since May of 99 trying to make sense out of this tragedy and how to deal with the fallout from his actions. We pay huge child support for a child he never sees nor wants to see from a woman who meant nothing and means nothing to him. He/we are paying the price for his enormous indescretion.<p>Winnie, I know how annoying it is to deal with a husband that is out of touch and tuned out of raising children and camping out in front of the TV grunting occasionally that he's hungry or needs a beer. However, at this point in my life, I would trade situations with you in a heartbeat. If you husband has not had an affair or had a child with some stranger/woman he barely knows and has turned your life upside down forever, perhaps you will get more insight and help on "Resolving Conflicts" or "General Questions".<p>It's good you found Marriage Builders to address your concerns and complaints because you will find useful tools in the other departments on this site that will be able to guide you through the many solution you can apply to your own situation.<p>Good luck, Winniee and God Bless.<p>Catnip =^^=