I am one of the old ones who thought I was really moving on and getting on with my life. But it seems like this nightmare will never end. <p>We have moved and we are doing great. Once again after two years of hard work since DDay I am smacked upside the head. We had to move in order to be able to pay the child support and pay our own bills. So we live in a barely making it situation. Well today my husband's work gave the OW 20% of the his bonus that we have been waiting for, for over 14 months. So once again we are getting a reminder. I owe money for a loan that I had to take out to pay bills. And the money that she got was supposed to be for my daughter's new bed. She is 3 and still sleeping in a crib because we couldn't afford a bed for her. She has been asking for a big girl bed for months. <p>I know that people have it a lot worse than I do, and I try to tell myself that. But sometimes it just hurts. On top this, I am pregnant. I am happy but now I am wondering if it is a mistake to have a child now. We can't afford it. I can feel myself slipping into depression. After all this time, and it pulls me back. Sorry if this sounds like a pity party. I am just really upset.<p>babstr

Whaaat?<p>Dear Sweet Babstr<p>This is absolutely outrageous!<p>I felt my blood pressure skyrocket just now...I am absolutely outraged for you and I promise there are people out there right now working to right these disgraceful wrongs.<p>If you have the energy and the wherewithall, I encourage you to protest and appeal the decision to have the 20% extorted from your husband's bonus. Is this because he is in arrears? Or do they just feel entitled to pick his (and your) pocket?<p>I am so sorry, and so angry that 'they' would do something so heartless and dispicable...never considering the innocent spouse, the innocent chidlren of origin and consider the new 'legimate' child on his or her way.<p>Go ahead and have your pity party, Honey. You are absolutely entitled. But don't wallow too long. It isn't good for you or your family and the little one on its way. Besides you can be more effective writing to the hearing officer, your senator, congressman and the CS people to protest and complain.<p>Those snakes.<p>Better days ahead, Babstr...you, as always, are in my thoughts and prayers. Even if this is such a shytty reason for you to post, it is still good to hear from you. I've missed you Old Friend.<p>One last thing...every dog has its day, and trust me, eventually these days of struggle and living on the financial edge will end, and it will be YOUR turn. Remember all things are cyclical and for some reason we have to go through the fire to emerge victorious. It will happen.<p>Sending you wishes for good and wonderful things to come...<p>Love<p>Catnip =^^=

Dear Babstr,I am so sorry to hear from you again with this cs rhetoric. Honestly what the heck is wrong with a court system that would allow that? As if she were a struggling x-wife!!! Who was left high and dry by her H!!!!!<p>Just another example of why I pray c4m becomes a reality.<p>The laws need to be mitigated.<p>I sincerely pray for all of us here....ALL of us.<p>I think the new baby will be well taken care of with God's power. <p>I miss you dear one. I wish you well.
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babstr, <p>That is just terrible! <p>D-day for me was June, so I'm rather new at all of this, but totally realizing that there are great days and then there are really terrible ones. <p>I don't have any advice for you. I think that Catnip was right on the money. I just really feel for you and will keep you in my prayers.<p>tinlizzy