<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by tinlizzy:
[QB] I will definitely tell my sons about condoms to try to protect against pregnancy and STD's. QB]<hr></blockquote><p>How about preaching "Abstinence" to your children? Why do we all assume our children have no honor or integrity and will cave to satisfy an itch or are completely susceptable to peer pressure and immoral behavior? I believe if we teach our children that sex is a gift we give to the one person we will share our life with and it is a beautiful thing, they just might buy it.<p>We short change our children when we give into the popular belief that they are simply reactionaries giving into stimuli as if they don't have any grey matter, that they will follow the herd rather than think for themselves or hold dear the teachings of their youth, is a gross disservice to them.
They don't ALL want to scratch an itch with some pimply faced pukey person they barely know or just have a crush on...some of them instinctively know that throwing away all that good stuff on someone they'll barely remember later in life is casting pearls before swine. It's up to us parents to back this up...that abstinence is cool...waaay cool. And the rewards will be sublime.<p>And since when is 'Hollywood' behavior a litmus test of what is right or wrong? These are just people... not learned scholars, men and women of any substance. In the days of the Renaissance, entertainers were simply entertainers...not some yard stick to measure how life is to be lived, determining popular morality. In fact, when it was time to be entertained, the King would bellow, "Bring on the Fool".<p>Catnip =^^=

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>And since when is 'Hollywood' behavior a litmus test of what is right or wrong? These are just people... not learned scholars, men and women of any substance. In the days of the Renaissance, entertainers were simply entertainers...not some yard stick to measure how life is to be lived, determining popular morality. In fact, when it was time to be entertained, the King would bellow, "Bring on the Fool".<hr></blockquote><p> [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] Oh! Catnip...I am so happy you are posting again. What a boring winter it would be w/o you here.<p>love
Debi

Well put Catnip, well put. I respect and appreciate your opinion. Keep them coming.<p>Of course I will teach my sons and daughter about abstinence. As well as protected sex. As well as saving sex for marriage. As well as treating all women, not just his wife or girlfriend, with respect. As well as teaching him to respect himself. Because he can abstain and still be a loser. <p>The reason I stated that was in an earlier post, someone was upset that a woman could trap a man into parenthood. If my son felt he could not abstain (his choice) , but didn't want the consequences of an unplanned pregnancy (his choice) , he should protect HIMSELF EVEN IF SHE SAYS SHE'S ON BIRTH CONTROL (his choice). Because there are some sick women out there who plan a pregnancy for the sole purpose of a CS check (not his choice).<p>MY (and I stress MY because someone will post a disagreement no doubt) ultimate goal as a mother to all my children is to raise well-rounded intelligent adults, capable of making the decisions that are right for them. They will know that as long as their happiness does not infringe on the safety and/or happiness of anyone else, I will stand by them all the way. These are MY values and mine alone. Thank you.

Bravo...