I feel sorry for your plight. Its true, all make mistakes, it begs the question how far are we willing to travel to try and compensate others for our shortcomings. I know of a similar situation the problem which developed over time was with the child who , as they grew older, foung themself to be different from siblings and this caused some developmental problems with adjustment and socialization. The child somehow come to think that they were instrumental in the destruction of a family. Of course, it was not the child's fault. I think the mom later thought that it might have been been for the child to have been given up for adoption in order to be raised in an environment of a home where they were the only child. Its great that the other children love this child, but will that always be enough. All children need tremendous love and support. I have a soul searching question, would you give up this little girl to reunite your family. after all, you are taking away from you other children their home and the benifits of a two family unit from them. its a hard question. but I wondered how strong remorse is compared to the love of a mom. God bless dixie