My H just emailed me with the weekends he would like to have the kids. Our daughter's birthday is on a Friday, and he offered to come get them on Saturday instead so she could spend all of her birthday at home. She said she wants him to come eat cake with us and then go over to the OW's on Friday night. I don't know whether he will agree to eat cake here - a few weeks ago he did a complete turnaround and decided that he wants to celebrate their birthdays completely separately - I wonder if someone told him to. I am, needless to say, disappointed that she wants to go over there - I suppose I should understand that she likes the variety, but it still hurts. She wants to go somewhere with me this weekend, when he is supposed to take them, and I am hoping he doesn't have a problem with that. The way things are now, I have virtually no time with any of the four youngest individually - I either am with all of them, or none of them. I wish he would leave one or two of them home when he takes the others.