i made a big mistake a while back. i was unfaithful to my husband who is a wonderful man. i chose to block it out until my husband confronted me about it. the day he confronted me just happened to be on his birthday. i felt so ashamed about the whole thing i had blocked it out but my husband and i needed to talk about it so for about the next week we talked until the early morning hours. my husband stayed with me even though i had done this but he still cant trust me completly. which i understand i probly wouldnt trust me either. i love my husband with all my heart and we have 3 beautiful boys. i would like some feedback about what i can do to help get my marriage back on track and earn my husbands trust again. we both want to make our marriage work hopefully someone can help .

thanks lost22a

Talk to your H about this site. My H started coming to this site about a week after he found out about the affair, i started about 2 weeks after. Now, we sit here together and read through the posts. That has helped, cause we ask each others opinoin about the topics. You and your H might want to do some reading. I am ordering the book "Surviving Infidelity", it is highly recommended by this site. We are also in the process of reading "Relationship Rescue". Well I'm reading it aloud to him (he doesn't like to read much).

Make sure that your H still knows that you love him and that you want your marriage to work. If he needs to talk then make sure you listen. My H and I sit up till 7:30 in the morning and I tried to listen and answer all of his questions. He needs to know that you won't do it again.

Write him an apology letter. I wrote mine this morning and let him read it by his self. He needs to know that you regret what you did.

Since the A, my H and I go to church every weekend! I truly believe that God was with him when he found out. (he has not drank in almost 3 months). This is a change for us since it used to be just me and our daughter going.

We have not went to a MC as of yet, but we plan to. From the other posts I have read it can take years for him to recover.

I wish the best for you and good luck. It's going to be a rough road.