I see all this posting in regards to attorney's, fees, cs amounts, how to pay these OW for cs. My question is that at one time my OW asked my H to relinquish any paternal rights to the OC. Does this include the right to pay cs? We cannot afford an attorney and we are doing this ourselves with the help of legal aide, but I never thought to ask legal aide and it takes a week for an appointment to see someone. Do you all know of any free ask an attorney phone line?<p>Help!!!
Simplysad

Simplysad,<p>My understanding is that it depends on the state and that in some states your rights can be relinquished but you can still be held responsible for support. In others you can not.<p>Our oc is supposedly being adopted soon. In the state she is on my H has already signed his rights over but it doesnt go thru until her H puts in the adoption papers. Then his rights are gone......all of them, including financial support of any kind.<p>I think in most states for you to sign your rights over there must be a person to take over your responsibility.<p>What state are you in?<p>Call around. There are lots of lawyers that will give free consultations, you just have to search for them. Or you may be able to find the laws on it for your state on the internet.<p>broken_wings

I am in the land of lots of women and very few men. The land of fantasy and dreams, fruits and nuts. California. <p>We were order to pay 774.00 first for one child. Of course Ow did not say anything about his two children from a previous marriage. And the state even though my two children live with us consider them in calculation of cs. <p>We already file for modification and we go to court tommorrow. We did not show up for the first court date, H was in denial and I just did not have any idea when the court day was, I was just trying to stay out of it. We have decided on no contact at all and I was keeping my part by not participating. But he then ask me to help and I got involved with the court issue. I want to go tommorrow but I know he doesnt want me to go. I think he is ashamed and she must not look to good. Part of me wants to go, part of me is afraid to go. If I go then I will have an exact imagine of this OW. H says he can control what I do, but he preferred I did not show up. What did you do?

Hello,
I am new to this and not had to deal with CS yet. But I would want to go to court. It concerns you to and your childern. I would not have H release rights until you are sure what the laws are in your state. Most states will make you pay CS unless there is someone to adopt the OC. She might be able to get more money if your H does that.<p>Dawn

SS,<p>I got to court with my H. I insisted upon it. You should talk to your H and tell him you want to be there. It sort or helps me heal showing exOW that H and I are still together and no matter what stunts she pulls we are going through this together. And I agree with Dawn find out what your state laws are before H signs over his parental rights. Good luck.<p>Unsure

SS,<p>If I could do it all over again, I would go to both court dates with my H, regardless of what my atty said. (I would handle myself with great composure!)<p>We settled out of court and had an atty. We were able to settle out of court because we filed a paternity suit first in a higher court.<p>My H signed away as much rights as he could under Louisiana Law. OW has sole care and custody of the child. We just pay what we agreed in the court settlement. That is pending if OW's fiance-man will adopt OC or not. If he does, we are freed from our financial obligation (my H will still need to sign the relinquishment) but for all practical purposes as it stands, my H now has no say in OC's life except in regards to payment.<p>That's just what the deal is with us. If I could do it all over again, I would go to court to show OW that I didn't run away and to show the judge and the State that there are other innocent people involved and not just the innocent OC.<p>Hugs,
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