I'm just curious if anyone else has ever been told this and if in fact she stuck to it...<p>My h was talking to ow today and she asked him if he had any intentions on being involved in oc life he told her he didnt think so, her reply to that was...fine I have a friend I have been seeing and he is willing to sign the birth cert and act as the father. <p>Now, my other question is, if she does go through with this, can she change her mind later on and change the name of the father on the bc, if so will we have to pay back cs?<p>We have discussed it and we have two young kids of our own and it just won't work for us to be involved in oc life.<p>Thanks for any and all help...
Jules

Hi Jules,<p>I live in the State of WA, and in this State the laws regarding OC are the father is left blank "unknown", they would not allow the OW to place just any name on the BC ... and even after a DNA test (child 6 mos or > ) which may prove who the BIO-father is, the BIO-father has to go thru the court system to have his name placed on the BC.<p>Unfortunetly, I have gone thru this twice in my 15+ year marriage. <p>Jo<p>[ December 23, 2001: Message edited by: Resilient ]</p>

Hi,
I would say each state is different. You should probably check on this in your state. I know that when my brother when in was in seperated got a woman pregnant and then he decided to go back to his wife. The OW actually finance at the time sign the birth certificate at the hospital with the OW permission that he was the father knowing he was not. The man wanted to marry OW and be a father to the OC. That was in Az.
I know here in WI with the mother permission a man can sign a paternity waiver saying that yes he is the father and does not want a paternity test. If he does that he is taking responsibility for that child and bio-father does not have any rights unless he contest it. And that man will go on the birth certificate. <p>It is hard for that person name to get off the birth certificate because he signed the waiver.<p>I think it is different each state so maybe calling a lawyer in your state to find out.<p>Dawn

I dont' know what state you live in. BUt in most states, once a name is on the birth certificate, it's really hard to get it off.

Hello,
I wanted to agree with Katie. One a person signs the birth certificate it is really hard to get it off. Maybe OW is trying to find a Daddy for her child. Since your H does not want anything to do with OC.<p>If another man signs it. I would not worry about her going after your H.<p>I know when my brother talk to a lawyer in Az about what happen with the other man that sign the birth certficate. Lawyer said it will be extremely hard for him to get his name off. It would cost a lot money, He would have to go to court and since he signed it the court can easily say to bad you did not have to sign it.<p>Dawn

Thank you to everyone for all the advice...I am definitely going to call a family lawyer tomorrow and I will let you know what I find out.<p>I am soo happy today because once again she said she wants my H to have absolutely nothing to do with the C and that this man that she "loves" wants to be the daddy and he is signing the paternity papers in the hospital and they wish my H never knew about the C!!!!<p>Now, if this is in fact what she does (I'll know in January when the baby is born I'm going to keep my eye out for the birth announcements in the paper everyday and see if it lists him as the father) I will feel very fortunate to not have to deal with the issues that go along with a OW wanting everything. Keeping my fingers crossed...<p>Thanks again everyone!!!
Jules