No, not a pie in the face, not a poisen one, but a bonifide Key Lime pie. Now my husband and I are separated. He lives about 40 minutes from here but comes in this way at least 4 times a week to see me and/or the kids. We have been dating each other and trying to slowly work our way back (see other posts) Well, I gave him a Christmas gift for the OC. It was my way of offering an olive branch to K and OC. I know my husband and she have remained friendly. He sees the baby and babysits when he can. She would have liked to stay together. But really they had a 2x encounter and there is a 20 year age dif. (disgusting, I know)
Well, he comes to take the kids out today and had a Christmas card for me and a pie she baked for me and the kids. She does a good plan A for someone so young and not introduced to the concept. My thinking is part of her doesn't want to be left out in the graciousness department. And that she still is trying to look good in front of my husband. That's fine. I really am at the "what ever will be will be" stage. It's kind of a bizarre situation but if my husband and I do get back together then the best thing to do would to be as amicable as possible. Well this is one for the books. I still havn't served it yet so if noone hears from me in a few weeks call the police! Just kidding of course.
Kris

Hmmm... that's interesting. Looks like she is attempting to extend an olive branch too. But I definitely agree on proceeding with caution... Some angry chefs have been known to bake brownies with ExLax!!! [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

Quakermom,<p>Hmmmmmmmm............could be sincere, but be careful. I think you are right about her not wanting to beleft out.<p>THe first Christmas of oc I sent a box of my daughters old clothes with several presents for oc and one for her older daughter (who also had no daddy). I didnt want the other little girl to feel totally left out. Anyways she then send a box of her older daughters old clothes and 2 presents for her for Christmas. It was a nice gesture and I took it for that, but I also think seh was sick of me being the "good guy".<p>Regardless I would watch my back and hopefully itll continue adn itll be with sincere intentions.

Quakermom,
That must be quite a shock after all this time but you said yourself she's a good Plan-Aer. I got a kick out of your post--great wording! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Hello all,<p> I know...sometimes I feel I've stepped into some weird soap opera set. I had a huge party New Years Day. It was a tradition my husband and I had. Last year I didn't have the heart for it but this year I did it kind of as a personal challenge to show myself I could still entertain. I considered serving that pie but had second thoughts. It ended up in the garbage, not maliciously but just because there was so much food in the house. I told a few of my friends and they were incredulous also. <p> I went out with my husband last night. Remember we are "dating". We had a really good time and talked well about how the stresses of adopting 4 children were never really dealt with and how getting married so young impeded our development of our own persons etc. I also asked (in a very Plan A kind of way) if K was being more "needy". Because I sense the pie thing means she feels she is starting to loose her grip and will begin to try to subtly do things to keep him involved and her looking good. He said, she had been dropping over more lately. I left it at she might be feelin a little threatened because she is still trying to have a father for her child. I can't believe the self-restraint I've developed. We made plans to go bowling together Sat. PM. I'll keep you guys posted.
Kris