I have just discovered this site about two days ago and have gotten the courage to post a half hour before the new year begins. I have unfortunately become a new member to this group although after reading many stories, you all seem like a wonderful supportive group of people. My story is this: My D-Day was three weeks ago. H finally told me about A which happened beginning of this year-lasted about 8 weeks. I was three months pregnant at the time. H broke it off and OW disappeared for a while. Came back few months later pregnant saying it was his, telling him he had to go to doctors visits, etc. or OW would come to my home and tell me. He went to 1 appointment. OW started asking for more ie. after OC born wants money etc. He finally couldn't take it and told me everything-seven months after it happened. OC is due end of January. H not sure if it is really his but it is always a possibility. We now have two beatiful children and I know I love my H more than ever now even though I said I would leave him if something like this ever happened. It is strange that when your in the actual situation you don't do what you always thought you would.
One tough thing to get through is when I look at my baby and think that soon another will be born that may be my H's. Another is the fact that almost a year went by that he was keeping this secret and I look back at all the times we shared after the A and can't get it out of my head that this all happened. He was adifferent person, with so much anger,and I never knew why-now I understand that anyway.
I think the worst part though is knowing he was with another woman and for the life of me I can't understand why. He doesn't really know either and that's what kills me. I never thought we had it so bad-no worse than any other couple that has arguments once in awhile. It may have been a tougher period back then but I never in a million years thought he would do this. He tells me now he loves me more than ever too and wishes none of this ever happened.
It is so sad that a baby may be born from a huge mistake.
I know that it is way too early to think I can get over this soon especially since the baby isn't even born yet-lot's of tough times ahead, but I am so tired of the pain I bear every day and the uncontrollable crying spells I have every few days so I finally had to post because tonight was another rough night. I thought I could get through it but as soon as the New Year started approaching I felt an incredible sadness for what we are going through and for what lies ahead. It is truly hard to bear.
Thanks for listening and I hope the New Year brings peace and comfort to you all.

Natalia, (Beautiful name, by the way!)<p>I am soooo sorry to have to welcome you to this group...but you are in the right place to vent, cry, get info and share with us.<p>This is an excellent place to be to get support you need, and info. on making some decisions. <p>I will be praying for you today as the Lord leads. My situation is slightly similar to yours, as our OW deliberately got pg by my H to desparately keep him in her life. You can read my situation under "my twiisted tale" or something like that...<p>Know that you are not alone and we are here for you. We do care. <p>Hugs to you,
Twiisty

Natalia,<p>I was watching Times Square in New York and couldn't hold the tears back when the 2002 lights lit up the streets. I don't know if the tears came because my nightmare year of 2001 was over or because 2002 is the year my h will have his first baby and not with me. <p>I am just so sorry that you are here. I know that there will be new members to this site, and i am sorry that you are the next victim to this awful nightmare. We are, for the most part, a great support group who want more than anything to be able to come here and share and feel a sense of security, friendship, love, encouragement, oh and so much more. I hope that we can be a blessing to you and help you get through this, as we are all struggling to do.<p>It does sound like your h is remorseful and takes responsibility for the mistake, but i know that doesn't take away the pain. I am not sure how much you lean on God for strength, but you are going to HAVE to lean on him now more than ever. He gives you strength for each new day. I remember telling my Pastor that i am just not strong enough to deal with this and i am going to leave him and get a divorce. He said, "of course you don't have the strength to get through something like this...God does."<p>I am going to say a prayer for all of us here and a special one for you (our new member). It is not easy to be in the first stages of this discovery. My dday was July 27 (A) and my 2nd dday was Sept 9 (OC). It is still tough to get through the days, but i know i can make it...I can. And so can you. <p>God bless,
Julia

Hello,<p>I just wanted to tell you that you not alone. There are some simililars to your situation. My H had an affiar only lasted a week in Janurary 2001. I was three months pregnant. My H was so angry at that time too mainly because we were having problems and he did not want another kid. I still does not make sense to me either because why go out and do what he did knowing OW might get pregnant. He did not think she would but he said there is always the possibility. The OC was born in October. OW has not done anything yet. <p>Dawn

Natalia --<p>Welcome to MB. We are all sorry that you're here but I am thankful that you are. I know that you will find comfort and support and maybe direction from the many warm, wise, and wonderful people here. It's an amazing place to come and be renewed and validated.<p>We feel for you and will do all we can to help you through this terribly difficult time. In my brief time here, I have learned that no matter how bad I feel and how down I am (and I am frequently), I find insight and strength and concern all around. No matter how bad my situation (and it is) someone else's story helps me to gain perspective and sensitivity to the immense pain and caring out there.<p>Post often and soon and let us know how you're doing. You're in my thoughts and prayers.<p>Blessings,
Ammon

natalia,<p>I'm so sorry sweetie that you are going through this but please do come here often even if you don't post everyday it helps to know that if and when you need someone they are there and they know what you are going through and can relate to so many of your emotions.<p>I told my H the same thing before we married and I made sure we were crystal clear of the consequences of an affair in our marriage...it would be me filing for divorce immediately no questions asked because there just isn't an excuse for it. But, here I am sticking it out and actually loving my H like the day I fell in love with him. <p>Anyway, the OW in our situation is due late January also so I am dreading the day it happens I think its going to make it more real. <p>I will keep you in my thoughts...<p>Jules