Hello all…<p>Just wanted to give a bit of an update of this weekend for you.<p>Court as I posted in an earlier thread was this last Thursday. We actually didn’t have to be there and our attorney called to let us know what happened. The attorney for OW didn’t want the risk order brought against his client, so now we go to trial. This trial is over the DCS/CPS petition and it will probably be in the courtroom of the Referee that knows all about OW’s past history, ie. her son being removed. Now its just sit back and wait… We go to court April 12th. So that gives OW plenty of time to make more mistakes. And with her history, its obvious that she will.<p>Lil Bit started out as she usually does on Wednesday nights.
She was her somber self (she is only 6 month old) and she winds up a big box of giggles by Saturday night/Sunday morning. I wish she would be like that all the time… it usually takes her 2 full days to get to the giggle box stage. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]
Mornings are not her favorite time, mainly Sat and Sun. She loves to play and all, but if you change her out of her sleepers she gets fussy (her daddy leaves her in her sleeper all morning, I change her clothes on Saturday and Sunday)
Evenings are not a problem at all.
Riding in the car, she is fussy in the morning, not the afternoon or evening. But after about 15 min or so, she calms down and begins to play in her car seat...
We have come to the conclusion that if its morning and she is being dressed and placed in the car seat, she must think its Sunday. We pick her up on Wednesday evenings and drop her off on Sunday mornings. I am curious if she really knows what is going on... [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I saw the look on her face this morning when she saw OW. This was my first experience with seeing that look. The way H parks next to OW’s car, I can’t see what is going on. This morning, however, he parked just right for me to see everything. When she saw OW, Lil Bit leaned away from her. She leaned toward our car. And the look on her face was a look of combined sadness and despair. It broke my heart. I know it may sound like I am imagining it, but I am sure of what I saw. The worst part was yet to come. When H handed her to OW and turned away, the look was now fear. Her little eyes looked like they were saying, “Daddy? Where are you going? Don’t leave me!” [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img]
I have never hurt so badly in my life. I feel like I have abandoned her. I feel powerless to help her. I know that this is necessary right now, but I hate every minute that she is away from us. I want to protect her; I want to be certain she is ok. <p>I know there are some of you that have been through similar things… I know that many of you didn’t find out about OW until they were a little older. I guess it’s hard for me when I read about your stories of stopping visitation, not knowing if the child is your H’s or not… things like that… I hurt for you… I ache inside… I don’t want those things to happen in my case. I know they say hindsight is 20/20… If you could do anything different, change anything that would/might make things go better… what would you change? Aside from the obvious, never let it all happen in the first place…<p>Thank you for being here for me to express myself to… Sometimes I feel so alone… Knowing that I can come here makes it a little easier…

You and your H and littlebit are in my prays. You are truly a special person. God bless you.

I'm praying for you and Lil Bit. I'm sorry you have received all of this in so much pain. But you are truly a gift in this child's life.

Stacia,<p>Well, at 6 months, they can tell what is going on, just aren't able to put it in the right catagory, if that made any sence. Just from your description from your original post here, with the condition of the baby, when you would get her to your house, would definately cause that huge red flag to just slap me in the face! Maybe you can document this reaction on tape for the courts, but be prepared to provide more than just you taking her back to OW. Now, the legal ramifications of this, I don't know, but you could check it out with your attorney. <p>The other thing to watch for is any odd marks. Is she crawling or pulling herself up yet? If not, bruising is not going to be normal at this time! If she does arrive at your home with some strange bruising, DOCUMENT IT!!!!! Does your H have access to Wibbet's pediatrician? If so, and, heaven forbid, there is signs of physical abuse, take her to see him, as soon as you get her!<p>Your description really does make me suspicious. I know that Abbi was wary of strangers, and even my friends, but loved to be held by me, Daddy, and B & S. She would have that look of fear when I would hand her over to someone else, but nothing that would rip my heart out, like you described. <p>That is the best advice I can offer you right now. I wish that I could offer you more. I, too, will be praying that you will know the right thing to do about this.<p>Love,<p>Tigger

Staci,
I would of asked my H not to see his female friend anymore. He met OW through her and he told me that all the females that he has gone out since we were married were friends with his female friend.<p>Dawn