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For Dunno--Anyone living by POJA?
#808311 01/31/02 03:55 PM
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Is there anyone here who is seriously living the POJA? <p>MJ
Re: For Dunno--Anyone living by POJA?
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<p>[ January 31, 2002: Message edited by: JustDunno ]</p>
Re: For Dunno--Anyone living by POJA?
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Mrs J,
I had to go reread it its been awhile. I have to say yes pretty darn good may I add.
My h doing whatever he pleased was a big problem before this happened. I guess I to am to blame I did whatever I wanted also. That was one of the first things we agreed on when I decided to give him a chance to prove things could change.
In the beginning he didnt even fart without asking me if it was o.k. Not really but he was that serious about making changes. It seems to come naturally after you do it long enough (not farting) the poja.
Oh please forgive me I am in one of those moods.
with love flowerseed
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JustDunno,
Policy of Joint Agreement its back on the home page. Read all the stuff there is really helpful.
So sorry you find yourself in this situation.
with love flowerseed
Re: For Dunno--Anyone living by POJA?
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by flowerseed:
[QB]Mrs J,
I had to go reread it its been awhile. I have to say yes pretty darn good may I add.
My h doing whatever he pleased was a big problem before this happened. I guess I to am to blame I did whatever I wanted also. That was one of the first things we agreed on when I decided to give him a chance to prove things could change.
In the beginning he didnt even fart without asking me if it was o.k. <p>LOL FS,<p>But it was the same here too we both did whatever we wanted and when I agreed to give him a second chance he would call me all the time to tell me where he was at and what he was doing. (It used to piss me off) (I never told him that of course) Now we both have a mutal respect for each others feelings and if we think someone crossed the line we talk about it.<p>Unsure
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We do.<p>It's funny but you don't notice that the POJA is really necessary until there is a disagreement about a decision.<p>POJA has helped me to back down as I LOVE to get my way all the time--who doesn't? but anyway, yes, we do and yes, it helps me back down and not be so forceful.

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