I was married for seven years when I filed for divorce from my husband. I know of at least three women that he lied to me about. I do not know if he actually had physical contact with all or not. Number one was a pen pal but something in those letters were personal enough that he had them sent to him at work, not at home. Number two I was told was a male friend he had met in a neighboring state at a hockey game so they began going to hockey games together always on nights I worked. It wasn't until I found a women's business card after he was 12 hours late coming home from a hockey games that I discovered his friend was no man. Number 3 was a distant relative of mine that everyone always seemed to see together. One day he was suppose to be at work and when I called and he wasn't there I found him at her house. Even though I never got actual proof of sex between he and these women I still feel that he had committed adultry. I am a christian and I believe that since I gave my husband over a year to stop his infidelity and he chose not to that I am not in the wrong for seeking a divorce. The divorce was final in Nov 2001, and I have found someone I enjoy spending time with. However according to the Bible if I remarry it is wrong. Am I reading this right, because of my husbands acts I am bound to spend the rest of my life alone. Any thoughts on this.

Molly,

Yes, you can remarry--someone else--

Do you still love your ex? is there any chance the two of you could ever get back together? meaning has he changed?

You know--don't get stuck on the God hate's divorce thing--Yes, He does hate divorce--but God also hates adultry, and lying, stealing, cheating
and all other sinful things--and they can all be forgiven--

I guess it depends on what you mean by changed? He is in a new relationship with someone who was married when he met her. He had her pregnant by the time her divorce was filed, but needless to say they took care of that. He even had the nerve to threaten not to come to his own childs birthday party because I told him as long as his girlfriend was married to someone else she wasn't welcome. I just didn't see the need in getting my child involved in his affair and my feelings are if I had told him it was ok to bring her I was saying the relationship was ok. He still can look me straight in the face and lie (ususally about things that don't even matter), but the difference is now I can tell when he is before he even opens his mouth. Do I still love him? I love the man I married and probably always will, but that man doesn't exist anymore. So is there a chance for us to work it out. Absolutely not, I think at this point even if he had changed, I would make us both miserable because I would never trust him again. There were too many lies told.

mollymae,

He made a choice to leave your marriage--for what ever reasons--so don't look back--

Can God bless your new marriage? I believe that He can--if you are both living for Him--and seek his presence in Your new marriage--

Is that something you and this man are doing? If so--then God can and will bless it--

Hi molly

I had this concern too, as I divorced my 1st husband because of his 7 mo affair.

In the gospels (matt, mark, luke, john), Jesus gives permission to divorce only for one reason: ADULTERY.

It's OK Biblically for YOU to remarry. Your XH will have to take his case up with God.

Sunshine

Then why is it that so many Christian ministers will not preform second marriages??