Am I incorrect to be upset about a non-disclosure? (my H thinks if you aren't directly asked about something and you don't mention it...it is OK). This past Oct/Nov timeframe, we were going to a counsleor..and during one session my H said he was 'taking' about $300. a month out of savings to just keep the household up and running (I was unemployed). It was the FIRST time I had heard that from H, and I was pretty upset that not only was he having to DO that, (and feeling like a complete slug because I hadn't been able to find a job) but I was REALLY upset because he hadn't told ME!! I believe that I should have known...not sure what I could have done about it....but I made it very clear that he should have at least TOLD me....and the counselor agreed. Yesterday afternoon, it came out that my H's parents - during the Oct/Nov time period, had sent he and his siblings a cash gift of $7,500. He did NOT mention at the time in the counselor's office - not a word until yesterday. And then he tells me he paid off his motorcycle with the money. We began having words (actually, I was almost crying)- because I can't believe he is doing something like this to me again. He started out by telling me (angrily) that I would have wanted half of it - to just give it to my kid. I told him he knew that wasn't true...that they were his parents and I would have told him good for you...now you can take me out to dinner! Then he started talking about how the interest was 9-1/2% on the bike loan....and I said baloney. I am not upset because you paid off a loan, I am upset that you CHOSE not to tell me. Actually, the only reason I think he did is because one of his parents might eventually mention it to me...but the whole point is: Is this really how marriages are? I have never been so hurt and cried so much as since I married him 2-1/2 years ago. Am I wrong to think that he should have at least told me? Am I naive? (Let me add...I will not be so naive anymore...and I thanked him for teaching me once again, how marriage really is.) Sadly, CLK-K
