<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr><strong>... Please direct me to the principals in this website ..</strong><hr></blockquote><p>Hi gdavis,
Hope these can help. They will also link you to other valuable articles and information that can help you in your recovery.<p>How Affairs Should End<p>Overcoming Resentment<p>Pregnant with Lover's Child<p>Policy of Joint Agreement (POJA)<p> <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by mnca6713julia3
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It was never God's will for man to sin, and the days and nights he laid with ow, God grieved intensely. This child is a consequence of that sin. Now many will suffer because of the initial act (sin), including OC, unfortunately. </strong><hr></blockquote><p>No, sin is not God's will, and He gave human beings a choice from the very beginning of creation in the garden of Eden. I agree that there are consequences for the sin of adultery, only I wouldn't go so far as to say that the gift of OC's life is a negative consequence, like punishment or something. The gift of life--conceiving a child, carrying the pregnancy to term, delivering a healthy baby, to me--are all blessings from HEAVEN, regardless. <p>Maybe I'm misinterpreting what you said, it's just that I don't view OC's birth as a negative consequence. So okay, emotionally and financially struggling as a single parent is definitely a negative consequence of not doing things God's way by getting married first, and definitely avoiding adultery. WS's consequences of adultery are dealing with BS's triggers, resentment and hurt and anger for YEARS to come. Not to mention the impact on the family's finances if OW files for CS. BS has to try to live with the deceit--real or imagined and try to regain the trust, if possible.<p>Some OC's suffer for not having a dad in the home. Some OC's suffer if one of their parents is the BS and doesn't readily accept them. Children of divorce suffer, children whose parents neglect them suffer. We all suffer... <p>OTOH, OC's with no contact can turn out okay and be very well taken care of by God's grace and mercy toward them, my OC is an example.<p>OC in my life has meant everything good as far as ME becoming the mom I needed to be... In my case, yes, there were consequences, but keeping OC was the best thing I ever did. For me.<p>[ February 25, 2002: Message edited by: BINthereDUNthat ]</p>

Hi tigger4jdt, and want it back. Thanks for the messages.
I have recently shown W my plane ticked details from when I departed the area where we were living and OM lived. I was nearly 2,000 miles away from her about 6 weeks before she actually fell pregnant. I explained that I know what this means and have known and accepted this all of the time.<p>I suspect that "want it back" is correct when she says that she feared me not wanting her if I was not the sperm donor.<p>Fred

Fred, I truly hope that this is the beginning of the honesty that you need and deserve. Sometimes it is very difficult to be honest but it feels so good when it's done.