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How do you keep each other sexually satisfied if each have different needs?
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read the book "the act of marriage" by tim Lahaye (?). and from what i've been able to understand from his needs/her needs, is that even if you don't want "it" as much as your spouse, that if you just do "it" then it will be filling their needs and make them happy which will in turn make you happy. the book i suggested was a real eye opener to me. good luck!
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Julie,
Most people have different needs when it comes to SF, but it helps to compromise. I wouldn't say go do it if you absolutely don't feel like it, but sometimes it may help to have a little bit more foreplay etc. to get you in the mood. Also sometimes, if you start 'it', you may find out that you end up liking it. ;-)
Kati
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Julie,
A lot of men don't realize what stimulates a womans interest in SF. They think that what would get them interested should also work for women.
After I read His Needs Her Needs, it made a little more sense to me and I can see that if I had met my W's needs in other ways, meeting eachothers need for SF would have come more naturally and mutually.
Of course your H will probably think that it is all just a Hormone thing, and it can be at times, but there is much more to it than that.
Age aslo can make a diffence sometimes. Typically as men get older, they calm down a little and women start to get a little more wild <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
Somewhere in there it can be just right.
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WIWH
You make absolute sense.
roughroad ~
Thank you, I will read up on it.
Kati ~
It's easy to change our minds from no to YES! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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