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OW has me GRRRRRR
#809470 03/11/02 12:34 PM
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I think this is just a really really bad day for me. next month I'm going to Doc's...we're going to go house hunting for "OUR" house...I should be over the moon. I've only been to where he lives once before, and he took me to the office and introduced me to some of his co-workers. I mentioned it would be nice to see one of them again..as we "clicked" , and it would be nice to have at least one friend where I'm moving to. Doc informs me that OW has asked that I NOT go to the office.OK Sh*t hits the fan on that one. Who is she to dictate where I can or can't go.So I've spent the past two days being obsessed with this issue. Any thoughts?
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Does OW work in Docs office? What has Doc said about this rediculous request? I just have one thing to say, don't you back down here, stand your ground.
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The OW works with him, one of a handful of people in his dept. Right now Doc is busy playing both sides of the fence, he's trying everything to keep me reassured and calm....but on the other hand...he's doing the same for her..he's trying to maintain a decent relationship with her for when after the baby is born. He really wants a relationship with this child. The issue on me going to the office he's sided with me on...I am with him , we are a couple and if she's got a problem with it tough. I knew this was going to be hard..I just didnt realize how hard [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Peace!
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Yes, it would be nice if he could maintain a civil relationship with the OW if he intends to be part of his childs life but definately not at your expense. She may just be testing her grounds right now to see what she can get away with. As long as Doc sides with you and lets the OW know that he's not going to play those games. And no, I'm sure none of it is going to be easy but I think if the bounderies are set firmly where the OW is concerned that it can be done. And remember, it doesn't matter how upset she gets at Doc or you he can still have a wonderful relationship with his child. Both of you can.
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DG<p>Now is the time for you and Doc to be united on this and all issues.<p>Praying<p>Catnip =^^=
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Well, it seems to me that if you guys are going to be involved in the OC's life, and probably with you as the go-between on visits? It seems that OW needs to realize that you ARE a couple and she should stay on both of your good sides, right? Makes sense to me that she should start learning how to meet you face to face like an adult... Oh well, hang in there because I know this cannot be easy for you whatsoever...
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Thanks for the support [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>All I can do is hope that this woman grows up some and accepts the situation for what it is and works with us. Doc's determined to be a part of this little ones life and is hoping to avoid any legal mess.
I found out last night that she instant messages him all day long via inner office IM's, asking him "whats wrong with me, why can't you be with me"
I told Doc he needs to inform the HR dept of whats going on , and one of them needs to be moved to a different dept.
Its been two steps back and one step forward for us...I just wish I had a fast forward button( or should that be a rewind button) for my life<p>Peace and happy Tuesday!!
a bright spot...Dr Phil is on today...LOL<p>[ March 12, 2002: Message edited by: DocsGirl ]</p>

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