Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum
This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at
mbrestored@gmail.com
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 361
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 361 |
<p>[ June 26, 2002: Message edited by: Tina71 ]</p>
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Feb 2002
Posts: 214
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Feb 2002
Posts: 214 |
{{{{ hugs}}}} I wish I knew what to say, but I don't. Did his company have a no fraternization policy in writing?<p>I'm just waiting till Doc's A with his coworker and her pregnancy come out...UGH<p>Peace!
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 361
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 361 |
Docs Girl Thanks for the hugs, very much needed. I do not think there was a clause about fraternization. <p>I know what you are feeling waiting for the outcome. It is a very difficult wait when the OW is a co-worker. I only had to wait 3 months, but it was shear torture, knowing every day H and OW were having discussions on how to proceed with his becoming involved with both OC once he had confessed everything.<p>Tina
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jan 2002
Posts: 610
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jan 2002
Posts: 610 |
Dear Tina,<p>I wish I had something wise and helpful to say. I am sorry your husband has lost his job over his A and that you have to suffer one more consequence of his horrible choices. Two OCs no less! <p>In a way I feel lucky that exOW lives 2,000 miles away. (We all used to live in the same state when the A began. We moved to the other side of the country and then she moved to the middle of the country to be near her family when she became pregnant.) I can't imagine how much harder it must be on those of you whose exOWs live so close. <p>Sending you prayers and concerns. I hope you don't get blasted because you don't want to play stepmom to the OCs right now. Of course you don't. Your world has just been blown apart again. Hang in there. You will be in our thoughts and prayers.<p>MJ
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jun 2001
Posts: 621
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jun 2001
Posts: 621 |
Tina,<p>I just wanted you to know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Sorry I don't have any advice.<p>
Unsure
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 2001
Posts: 709
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Oct 2001
Posts: 709 |
Tina, Hugs and prays to you. I really don't know what to say. Except maybe you did to seek legal help.<p>Hope your H understands why you don't want to play step mom.<p>Dawn
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 361
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 361 |
<p>[ June 26, 2002: Message edited by: Tina71 ]</p>
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jun 2001
Posts: 312
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jun 2001
Posts: 312 |
I am praying for you. Did your h ever consider consulting an attorney for wrongful termination? How long has he been with the company? Maybe he shouldn't have signed anything yet? <p>I hope all will work out for you. I guess the good news is that now there is no cs to worry about. Can't pay that without his income...<p>I know small concilation (sp?).
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jun 2001
Posts: 967
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jun 2001
Posts: 967 |
I feel badly for you. That's way too much to deal with right now. Your H's case reminds me of my worst fear with my H's affair. His affair was with an EMPLOYEE who just happened to be his partner's wife, and my FORMER best friend. <p>After the dust settled, I realized she could have sued him for sexual harrassment and won. I found it ironic that we saw the movie Disclosure together (Demi Moore and Michael Douglas) with this couple.<p>I feel very fortunate that after a 9 mos separation, much counseling for years, lots of prayers, etc. we are still together. But it is VERY hard and I know how much you're hurting. I had to deal with the double betrayal of the 2 people I loved the most. She never did admit the truth or make any restitution to me or our friendship. And all of this happened just 6 mos after I was matron of honor in her wedding.<p>Stay strong and know there are lots of people caring about you
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: May 2001
Posts: 3,303
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: May 2001
Posts: 3,303 |
Hmmm.... maybe it could be a blessing in disguise as far as CS is concerned??? Don't they base CS on income? I have a feeling it will all be okay. Your H will be blessed with another job. Maybe this is God's way of "helping him along" in making the move to get out of the same workplace as the OW. Could this be a double blessing in disguise? You never know?! Don't despair! God will provide!!!! Keep the faith!
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Sep 2001
Posts: 903
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Sep 2001
Posts: 903 |
(((((((hugs))))))<p>Sending hugs and prayers your way and praying for peace for you.<p>Hugs again,
Twiisty
|
|
|
Moderated by Ariel, BerlinMB, Denali, Fordude, IrishGreen, MBeliever, MBsurvivor, MBSync, McLovin, Mizar, PhoenixMB, Toujours
|
0 members (),
147
guests, and
46
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,659
Posts2,323,613
Members72,372
| |
Most Online9,682
May 13th, 2026
|
|
|
|
|
|
