Hello, Everyone<p>I haven't posted in a very long time but, I come here to read and for support. Like all of you I found out three years ago about oc/ow. My life haven't been the same since then. Like all of you I had to deal with the ow and oc. No visistation here, I can't take it. But, h and I have had good and bad days.<p>Thge latest drama came after a long time of good days...... ON my birthday my husband and family took me out to dinner , he had a little to much to drink and proceeded to act like a total jacja$$. This lead to a very heated argument after we left the resturant. I left home and check into a hotel. WE haven't spoken to each other since, 10 days. He slleps on the sofa. This was the first time I ever left home and stayed out all night. He looks lik ea total heal these last few days. <p>Can I reconnect with him are should I hold my silence. I know the silent treatment is damaging to my marriage. Please Help.

If learned anything these past 7 months, I've learned that silence is not golden. The only way to get through anything, IMO, is communication. good luck

Maybe you guys need to address his drinking in a kind, and gentle way without attacking him? I'm wondering if he even remembers his behavior that caused you to leave in the first place? He may even be at a loss as to what to say to you? I mean, how can he be sorry if he doesn't even remember what he said or did? So, yes, I agree with lemonpie that you guys need to sit down and talk. Discuss what happened that led you to withdraw from him and revisit that conflict. Let him know you are sorry for the silent treatment because you really want to reconnect. How could he not be open to that?