i am new at this posting thing...
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> my husband i have been married for 6 months and i thought we had the money situation befor we said "i do". however that is not the case... he has his own business in ranch real estate and makes 7X what i make and refuses to get a joint account and thinks everything needs to be 1/2 and 1/2. i cant keep up with him money wise. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> i dont want him resenting me becasue i dont make a lot of money. he always says things like your debt is mine (i dont have that much debt) but he never does anything to help. but he spends money on trucks and hunting gear ect....i am so upset. this makes it hard to be happy for him when he makes a new sale and brings in another 100 grand. and i see nothing. am i selfish? or in the wrong? i know he works hard and deserve the best. i was with him when he was in the whole 20 grand and worked his way up. he says he works for us. but i really dont know. i dont feel important and i feel left out! any advice?

Mondak: Have you read "His Needs, Her Needs" by Dr.Harley??? This is an excellent text to help with the money issue. Since this separate money deal is upsetting to you, talk about this with your husband. You may need to ask how his parents did things. You can think about your childhood and how your parents did things. You may agree with your parents or want a new deal. Same for him. Talk with him in nonthreathen way. Get the book and read it. This site has some of the info but the book will be easier since you can read the thing as you want and not stuck to the site. I think you are very smart to notice this as a challenge so early in your relationship. Keep trying and good luck. Peace