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I have recently found out (Valentines Day), that my husband has been having an affair. We have a 3 year old and I am 7 months pregnant. He has assured me that no sex has taken place, but i was tested for all sorts of things, particularly for the safety of the baby.
I have her phone number, and I really want to call her to ask her for the truth about the physical contact, just so i do not wonder for the rest of my life whether I am dealing with the whole affair, or just a portion of it. I dont know whether to call or not. He just spent 5 days on 'business' in Arizona where she lives, and I know they saw each other everyday (this was just before I found out).
Also, we just married in August of 2001, and he is claiming that although they've known each other for 2 years, the affair began in September 2001. I think he is scared of me finding out that the affair was going on while we were planning the wedding.
I know he is not crazy aobut me calling her, but I dont feel like I'm getting the whole truth. Any ideas would be greatly welcomed. thanks.
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^^BUMP UP FOR amarkus^^<p>Soooo, now that some time has passed and you have had a chance to think about it, what did you decide to do?<p>I don't know if everyone would agree as I have seen various opinions on this regarding the same subject.<p>ALSO, you have to remember your baby that you are carrying... do you really need the stress? Can you work it out between you and your H? Would you be able to contact OW feeling totally secure in your M so she doesn't sense in any way that she has an upper hand? You know, perhaps knowing something about your H that you don't.<p>I don't know. I can't say for sure what you should do. There are some BS's who have contacted with good results, and some BS's who have contacted OW and ended up being a wreck afterward.<p>My sense is telling me that if you have doubts about it, then don't do it!<p>But now that 2 days have passed since you posted, something also tells me that you already did it!!!!! [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] DID YOU?????????
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