Hi, I didn't want Bob's post to get side tracked.<p>Thank you for your response. I didn't mean to imply that becasue my dd grew up without her father she is just fine. My intent was to say that whether or not her bio father was in her life she has turned out to be an adult on the right path. My H and I did not even marry until she was 15. We are all molded by our upbringing but also thank goodness have free will. I know my family life was not much to write home about but I turned out ok...I don't have any of the disfunctions that are so rampant in my family. I am a hard worker, LOYAL to my friends and family and yes even H!, I am a respected member of my work place and I didn't have the best upbringing.<p>My dd does not know about the affair or OC. No one in my family does. I do have some friends that I have confided in. My family (as I have previously mentioned ) have their own set of issues to deal with. I'm keeping mine out the picture for a while.<p>I do so appreicaite your concern and comments, and yes I do keep an eye on her. For instance she told me that a man a work (who is married and has children) was showing an interest in her. My advice without revealing my own situation was before she even considered what to do was to realize that whatever she does will effect his wife and children forever! I told her that the story he gave of not getting along with his wife (you know the drill) is the oldest story in the book. I know that she really thought about it and has made no attempt to have a relationship with him. She is actually avoiding the situation.<p>I was/am also that strong person that people just seem to assume deals with every thing and life goes on. That was part of the problem with H and I. I understand what you mean.<p>Yes, I still wonder about H when he goes on his bi-monthly visits. All I can do is talk to him about it, let him know my feelings and hope that he is doing what I asked and what we agreed upon. I am hoping that he is doing the right thing and that my trust for him will return. <p>Thanks again for your concern...and sorry I'm so wordy.<p>Take care,
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