I started my compuserve today and saw this....<p> <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Cheatin' Love? 5 Lies About Adultery<p>By Cathryn Conroy, CompuServe News Editor
Adultery. It's frightening. It's also fascinating. And it may not be the kiss of death for a marriage, according to Bonnie Eaker Weil, author of "Adultery: The Forgivable Sin." Yes, it can be wrenching. Yes, it can tear apart a family. No, it doesn't have be the end of the marriage. Forgiveness can make us whole again. Don't believe it? The numbers may prove that Weil is right. About half of all marriages end in divorce, but Weil--whose own relationship was tainted by infidelity--insists that adultery in some form occurs in an astounding 80 percent of all marriages. <p>Can this marriage be saved? Bonnie Eaker Weil diagnoses a marriage touched by adultery in this Ladies Home Journal feature. (Click here and then click on the LHJ icon on the left side of the page.) <p>She offers five misconceptions about adultery:
1. Adultery is about sex.
No, it's not. And it's not about passion either. The attraction is almost always emotional more than physical.
2. Adultery is about character.
Like father, like son. Children whose parents cheated are more like to be adulterers when they grow up.
3. Adultery is therapeutic.
Some adulterers believe an affair will teach them to be better lovers--benefiting everyone and enriching both relationships. Not true! Adultery is destructive.
4. Adultery is harmless.
It's a thrill to be sure, but this simple pleasure is addictive--and can be especially harmful to your children.
5. Adultery has to end in divorce.
No, it doesn't. You can learn to forgive--even if you will never forget. <p>Is it EVER appropriate to lie to the one you love? The answer may surprise you. <hr></blockquote><p>Gotta go back and read....especially about the children thing.<p>love
Debi