btdt,,, i understand that it takes 2 to tango. i do however see fh's remorse every day and at the same time feel that the om is glotting about another notch in his belt and thinking he walked away free and easy and most likely planning on wrecking someone else's marriage. his time will come in more ways then one. <p>also you are right in the strength we gather from our children. it was them that gave me and give me the strength to continue on with fh. there are many days that i feel i am ready to throw in the towel and move on but think of them and refuse to give in. as the words from a b.j.thomas song say i don't want them to become broken toys.<p>such a sad little face,
with a heart that's torn,
livin' in a borrowed space,
from the moment she was born,
how many times she cried,
but never tears of joy,
someones taken a little girl,
and made a broken toy,<p>two sad little eyes,
painted heart break blue,
the simplest of his dreams, never will come true,
someone elses pain,
fall on this little boy,
someones taken a soldier,
and made a broken toy,<p>broken toys,
for everyone we break,
a broken life takes it's place,
that someday will break toys of it's own,
oh Lord we got to mend these broken toys,<p>let them be children again,
give back the innocence,
stollen from them.<p>i refuse to allow fh's and my children or grace become a broken toy because of the foolish choice made by 2 adults.

I'm always deeply touched by the wisdom and strength and endurance found in the character of MBers on this board. Wow... You can't lose.

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by pops:
<strong>...at the same time feel that the om is glotting about another notch in his belt and thinking he walked away free and easy and most likely planning on wrecking someone else's marriage...
</strong><hr></blockquote><p>Maybe? Maybe not. I doubt it. If fh saw something in this man that turned her toward him, enough to risk everything, I doubt if he is truly an evil person to his core... Think about it???<p>My guess is that he is probably way too embarrassed to face you and deal with everything that has come to the light. He probably knows that you are livid. If he is married, (can't remember?), then he has probably put himself in your shoes more than once--*I* would imagine...<p>So nah, I disagree that he is out there plotting to destroy another family. I bet he is just another man, human and flawed just like the rest of us.<p>I totally admire your resolve to be there for your family. You're gonna make it through this!