...in an effort to put the emotional baggage back where it belongs...in her lap. By having low self-esteem, weak integrity and being selfish, she dumped all of her issues in my lap. Well I sent them right back to her in a letter and I hope she finally owns them and changes. The issues that got us into this mess were never mines in the first place...I was just a bystander, so why should I be left holding the bag????<p>I'm tired of carrying around the pain and disgust at what she did. I've been able to address my husband's wrongs over the past two years, but I just couldn't address with her how she caused so much pain and drama in my life. There was always something in the way. At first, it was the fact that I wasn't sure how I felt about everything. I blamed my husband mostly. Now, that time has passed I've been able to sort things out and place her share of the blame squarely on her shoulders and let her deal with it. Then there was the court situation...didn't want to do anything more to upset that slow-as-molasses process. Well, now was the right timing and I just put the stamp on the letter, and I already feel much freer. I wrestled for a long time with whether or not I would actually ever confront her, but now that I've done it, I feel free, like she doesn't owe me anything....almost like the ball is in her corner now, and I don't ever want her to throw it back...I'm done playing catch!!<p>At this point, I don't care wheter she reads it, publishes it, responds in kind or apologizes, all I know is I did what I felt would continue to help my healing process.<p>Woooohoo!!!
