I am very confused. My husband didn't talk to me (at least in a way that I understood) that he was unhappy. Our life seemed ok. Then he started to work out of town. He now is gone all the time and isn't sure he wants to come back. I have tried to start to give him more of what I know he wants but it seems to drive him further away. My life had been complicated by stressful work and little kids and I wasn't able to give him what he needed. My life has gotten much easier but know he isn't here to share it.

He doesn't want to go to consuling. He won't read the things from your website that I printed for him. Nothing I say seems to mean anything to him. He just says he doesn't want to come back, if he won't be happy. But he won't tell me what it will take for him to be happy. Anytime we do talk about it, nothing gets resolved or understood before he has to leave because he doesn't want to deal with it anymore.

I really don't want to loose my husband. But I don't know what I can do to help him. Any advise you can give me is appreciated.

Thank you

Hi Alesa...welcome to MB.
Weekends are slow, so unfortunately, you won't get many responses right away. This forum also does not get much traffic. This is a good post for the Emotional Needs forum, so you should consider copying and pasting it to that area.

Harley's book, His Needs/Her Needs, will be a good place for you to start. Also check out the Lovebusters book. You'll find a lot of great information on this website.

I'd highly recommend ordering a couple of Harley's books and spending some more time reading the basic concepts, Q&A, and articles on this web site. Repost your information into a more active thread and include as many details as you feel comfortable with (how long have you been married, you old are you, any kids, identifiable challenges that may have started causing your husband to withdraw, etc.).

Best of luck,
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