I have married for 8 years. I have been faitheful to my wife for that time. I have been having problems in our marrige the last two years. Soon after we married we agreed to that it was a good idea for me to start a bussiness, and I did. We worked very hard at it and now we are very succseful and well of finacialy. I made the mistake of focasing to much on my job and not enough time on my wife. I noticed we were having problems and suggested counseing several times in the last two years. Now she left me, and I still love her very much. I told her I wuold do any thing I cuold to save our marrige and work on our difrences. We had been going to counseling for the last 90 days and she has tried to end our marrige sevaral times and I have talked her out of it every time. Last night we were enjoying the fruits of our hard work. She told me to sit down we needed to talk, she confesed to having an affiar and a one night stand in the last year, the one night stand happened int the last six months two difrent guys. she was hoping for a rewaction from me to end the marrige i on the other hand controlled my self and told her that I understood that I had caused a great deal of pain and that she might have been lookig for some one else to take my place. I told her that I still wanted to wok things out. she siad she could not. I tried to reason with her but she would not have it. I finalliy gave up and handed her my wedding ring and i said ok. I told her that iloved her and wuold like for her to forgive me for not being the husband she needed. when we were saying our good byes.she told me she needed one more day to think about it. I am willing to forgive her for her infedelities and she is not willing to forgive me for not always understandig her. I dont really know what to think? If she does decide to come back How am i ever going to trust her when she has not aked for my forgivness. I dont know what to do .I am almost sure that this marrige is better of over. But i cant help that I still love her very much.......... since yesterday tomarrow came and she still does not want to comit to the relation ship I was wondering how long should I hang on.....I know she has alot emotional and psycological issues?

Hi Cesar...welcome to Marriage Builders. Please read all that you can on this web site. There is an amazing amount of information available here.
You need to implement Plan A and/or Plan B. Please visit the infidelity forum (Just Found Out or General Questions II) for help in beginning this next step. I have not been in your shoes, but so many people in these forums have and will tell you not to give up until you have done a true Plan A and Plan B.

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