Hello,
I am 38 soon to be 39. I have the sex drive of an 20 year old, my wife on the other hand would be happy if we had sex once a year. I have become very frustrated and I am truly in love with my wife. I also fear GOD and want to always obey his commandments, adultery is out of the question. But sometimes I find myself being drawn to look more than once at women when they come into view, I try very hard not to think any inpure thoughts, but sometimes it is uncontrollable. I ask for forgivness and try not to dwell on it. My wife says that sex is all I care about, I am a soldier and I go to the field alot. Normally when I'm there the other men look at porn, cheat on thier wives etc.. I have done well so far to be faithfull to GOD and my wife, no porn, and I have never cheated. I am growing weary, I feel as though GOD has given me this wonderful desire to please only my wife in this way, but she just dont have the desire. I am in decent shape, not overwieght, I work, I'm faithfull, I work around the house etc.. My wife has had 5 miscarriages, I am sure this is a contributing factor, plus she seems depressed most often, I really dont know what to do outside my constant prayers to GOD for intervention. I know sex isn't everything in marriage, but the lack of leaves me bitter, feeling undesirable, and angry, this makes it hard to open up, and communicate, and do the other things she needs from me. It's like a cruel circle of curcumstance. I seek advice from GOD first, and from others who may have been through this or going through this. GOD says it is by that which we are comforted of GOD, that we should comfort others. I leave this message with that thought.
Sincerely ,
Melman
