I need some advice, me and my new partner live 6000 miles apart, rather difficult to handle, we have both had really devastating relationships in the past and are both rather insecure and trying to figure out how to have a normal relationship. My partner has become very depressed as we have kept missing each other online and on the phone for more than a week now, we have talked but no where near as much as usual. I have a very hectic life with children, work,college, a messy divorce and planning an international move back home to where i grew up along with the demands of friends. my partner has started to worry that i am avoiding him or simply have better things to do than talk to him which simply isn't the case no matter how much i try to reassure him he worries that i am going to treat him the way his ex did. When we do talk he says that i am preoccupied with other things and though i talk a lot i am not 'TALKING' with him, i tend to ramble on about what i have been arranging for my move and what i have been doing, no matter how much i try to get him to talk about himself or try to engage him in something he just gives a short answer, trying to get him to talk is like pulling teeth. We used to have wonderful conversations but they seemed to have stopped, part of me doesn't want to get too emotional cus if i start telling him how i am feeling i won't be able to hide how depressed i am that he is so far away. I am trying to bury myself in arranging everything so that i can move and be near him properly, if i didn't i wouldn't be able to cope. What i need is some ideas on how to engage him in conversation and how to really talk, in my last relationship i was all but ignored, and on some occasions blatantly told to shut up, so to say the least i have lost the art of being able to have a good conversation. I really love this guy and really want to make this relationship work, i know things are made harder by the distance but it has been an issue when we are together as well i find it really difficult to do things like tell him annecdotes from my past. Am i just weird or is there a cure for being verbally boring???? Guys your input would be most valued here!