I have only posted on this site once, but always come here to read. I never thought so many people had similar problems that I have. Here is my story, I'll try to make it short. In August 2001, my husband left, we have three boys. 16, 6 & 17 mos. The oldest from a previous marriage (mine) the other two ours. He has 3 other kids from 2 other marriages. We have been together since July 1989. we moved in together in March 1991, got married in July 2000. <p>I've suspected he was having an affair since December 2000, but he denied the whole thing. After he left, he called me 2 months later and apologize for hurting me, I asked him to come over to talk, I also asked him if he wanted to come back home? he said OK. I was happy, we made love and thought we were on our way to make our marriage work. (I'm so stupid and naive) afterwards, he got dressed and said I'll see you tomorrow. I couldn't believe what had just happened, he says he had to get himself together first before he comes back. Days passed, weeks passed, whenever we'd talked, he says he wasn't ready. Finally he came back home in November 2001., right after thanksgiving, he was just moping around the house, not saying anything. I asked him what was wrong, he said he's going to tell me but I'm not going to like it. He says "I got somebody pregnant", I was numb. After a lot of shouting and arguing, he said he doesn't think this was going to work. I asked him to stay, but he left.He still came around to see us every Sunday, and expected sex. He also claims that he only started sleeping with this woman after he moved out.<p>I always gave in to him and every time even thought I say to myself I'm not going to let this happen any more. afterwards, I felt like a fool. He keeps telling me he still loves me, he's coming back home soon. The latest thing is that this girl does not have a car, he needs to be there to take her and the baby to the doctor (baby was born April 10, 2002)he's waiting for her to get a car so he can move back home. Well last night I didn't give in, I said no way, I am never going to sleep with you again unless we're back together. He was furious, he said he thought I understood, He just need me to give him a little more time. I am a rebel, I must be F... somebody else. He took off his wedding ring(which he wears only on Sundays) and told me when our son gets older to give it to him and he left. I am not sure what to do at this point? I would appreciate any advice.

cc, I am so sorry for your pain. You are in an awful place, emotionally.<p>Cunsult an attorney, for a consultation, to find how best to protect yourself and your children financially. He can freeze all assets until you and H and work this out.<p>You asked for an opinion. This is mine.<p>ember

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charlie christine, i almost peed my pants, i sure hope your husbands name is charlie, because i had my daughter on April 10 too, but I am no an OW (unless he leads a double life). I too have no car, and I use BF's truck to get around. But he does live with me and our children. So no, we are speaking of two different people but man that is spooky, so many similarities.. I do hope that you can work things out with your husband if that's what you truly want, but I would suggest you cut off the sex, sounds like he's using you a bit. And maybe give him some room to make some decisions in his life while you work on yours. Good luck to you.