1LS,<p>What have you decided to do?<p>This board is pretty much for those dealing with a child born of an affair, but I am still wondering what you may have learned. Is your husband in a 2nd affair? I am also wondering/concerned about how you are doing.<p>MJ

MJ,
Thanks for your concern. I have not told H about the emails or finding the calling card yet. I have checked the balance of minutes on the card on what seems like an hourly basis. The minutes have not changed. I also installed the Iopus spyware on home computer but H has not really used the computer. I am afraid he may be using his computer at work. We have a "family" computer which our kids are on a lot so he might be afraid to use this one if something were going on. I tried to get a call detail from the customer service number on the card but everytime I call I get put on hold for long periods of time without ever speaking to a customer service rep. I stayed on hold for 25 minutes today and got fed up and hung up. Usually I will hold for about 10-15 minutes but today I kept thinking right when I hang up someone will be ready to take my call. I almost feel like emailing back and asking for more information but I don't want to look like I am not in control. H is a detective---you would think i would have learned a thing or two from him. About 3am this morning I got out of bed and took H's keys and searched his car but found nothing. I had allowed myself to slip into a comfort zone of sorts but now I am "aware" (for lack of a better term.) Sad thing is, I had no clue about OW/OC until H moved out and decided to tell me. I thought the problem was all about US. What else can I do?