Ladies ladies ladies.....<p>Take a deep breath and step back for a few mins.Isn't the reason we're here is for support? I don't see a lot of that going on right now, not pointing any fingers mind you...lol<p>There have been several times I've wanted to post to people ...in a not so positive way...but those were knee jerk reactions and having taken the time to think it over I was able to let it go.<p>WIB, Mo5 and CM and all the other OW I truly admire your courage to come and share your stories with us. You have made me rethink my opinion of OW in general. You are all intellegnt, caring women who have owned up to your mistakes and are making the best of YOUR situations. Somehow you have made me soften just a little towards my OW, even tho she was decietful and manipulative. If I can forgive Doc for his indescretion...I feel I have to forgive her as well...she owed me nothing. <p>Please keep posting

YOU ARE RIGHT.
I shouldnt let it get to me, my apologies to those I have offended. <p> something you should know reading here and talking has made me learn to be even more accomadating to OM's wife with my daughter something that at first was hard to do but this had made it easier.

I guess I'm just sick and tired of being lumped into a specific category by people who know absolutely nothing about me. Me the person, not me the OW. And there is A LOT of it that goes on here. Just like everyone else on these forums the "OW" have the right to vent once in a while also. So... there will be no appologies from me. At least not today.

i understand wib, I am not apologising for my feelings or beliefs, They stand the same, But I do not want any one to think I am judging them only my situation. Thats all, so if they have taken it this way, I apologize.

MoF, You are ALWAYS fair in your posts. Making sure that everyone knows that you are speaking in terms of your own situation etc. What happened to you was totally UNCALLED for.

I don't believe anyone has to apologize for their opinion, viewpoint or convictions. An apology is just called for if there are disrespectful judgements made, which goes against the principals of MB ( wow...something sunk in), or maybe I'm not clear on this...are disrespectful judgements just not to be made to ones spouse or SO? Sorry sarcastic moment...<p>on a brighter note...it's a beautiful day here in the Pacific Northwest

DG, I am certainly not upset with you. As far as I'm concerned you rank right up there with MoF when it comes to being fair. And yes you are right about disrespectful judgements. I thought everyone was taught " If you can't say something nice then don't say anything at all"

Hi everyone,<p>If you're looking for someone to SUPPORT, I believe "1 Lost Soul" could use some more help. <p>She has OC situation and is Dv now ... although her and her H are back together and she suspects another possible new affair (D day).<p>Here's the LINK ... CLICK Here Pls <p>Love,
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Doc'sG,<p>I missed alot it seems. I'm sure I'll hear what happened when I hear back from Momof5. The details don't matter that much, its sad that both Momof5 and WIB have left. I'm the lone duck it seems.
I just wanted to say that I think you point out a very important aspect of the benefit of this PUBLIC forem.
It is the chance to learn from others who are both like us and who are very different. The OP and BS's. I have changed my "strategy" in my life both in my approach toward my marriage rebuild and my Affair's end. I have much softer feelings toward not only OM's W but also OM now that the A is over. I have a different perspective on continued contact, something that I was completely uneducated about before this site and before hearing BS and WS talk about it. BS's like you, with your calm, intellegent responses, have enabled me to learn about the other side of the affair, from the BS view.
I'm happy to hear that you have been impacted by some of us WS/OW in your feelings about your ex-OW and his A. It does change us when we learn from eachother. For the better. You have grown and learned valuable lessons as a result and with those, you become a bigger person, much more likely to grab that brass ring.
I don't plan on spending much if any time here at least not in the near future. NOt because I'm going to be chased away, (I missed the CM thread, poor Gemini started a thread for me and I never showed up) but I imagine if I had, I would feel just as WIB and Mom do. Not everyone here is as big hearted, intelligent, and open minded as you are. Good Luck with Doc and your future together. Good people deserve good lives.