Hi all. I am curious as to why my thread was locked? I posted nothing that was negative in nature, nor do I feel anyone that responded to me did. I came here to gain an understanding from the BS POV. For those who responded - thank you. To the moderators an explanation, though not required, would be nice. Thx. fs

Yeah I was wondering the same thing.<p>Thanks for answering my questions. I have no hard feelings toward you. In fact I was kind of generous in my feelings to my husband's OW, that is until I talked to her. She was so mean and arrogant and did not have any compassion for me as a woman. My husband told me that she was married before and her husband cheated on her and left her for another woman. Well, my husband has been home for almost two months now and recovery is going wonderful. I have actually forgiven my husband and the other woman. <p>I dont know what else to say about your situation, maybe you just need to step back a little. The wife is very upset at her husband and she might have revenge in her heart, but I also understand her unwillingness to make things easy for him. [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img]

nicole,
I am truly glad that things are going well for you now. I imagine recovery is a tough process. Good luck to you.<p>I posted the ? as to why it was locked on my board as we have several membes there that post here. They suggested something vile happened here over the weekend and that I should move post to general.<p>I understand her anger. However, I do not understand nor accept her potentially jeopardizing their D's life just to punish him. My 8-year0old D as I said is very close to my MM. Her bio-dad lives right here in town and does not see her by his choice. However, if he was to show up tomorrow and wanted to take her out, I would put my feelings of resentment aside for his past treatment of her and allow her to go. H%ll I still let her visit w/ an XSG and his girlfriend. It should be about the children first.<p>I will continue to allow her to vent when she calls. However, I will also encourage MM to pursue all legal avenues available to him to ensure that he remains an active part of his D's life. fs

Are you married? Are you a marriage builder? Are you rebuilding a marriage?????<p>Are you interested in marriage building of any kind?<p>I don't know... <p>From reading your story, it sounds like affairs are in full-blown progress??!! With no endings in sight? Maybe that's why the thread was closed, just my guess? Not MB-oriented.<p>The moderators listed a very detailed explanation right at the top of this forum so your question was already answered before you even posted!<p>This is just my answer and not a flame whatsoever...

Hello,
I just what to say this is a place to discuss rebuilding a marriage. And this place is for people that have an OC resulting from an Afair.<p>Do you fit in one of these catorgatories? If not maybe that is why your topic was close.<p>
Dawn<p>[ June 05, 2002: Message edited by: Dawn71 ]</p>

I just wanted to point out that it was a good thing to hear from SOW22. I personally benefited from hearing about the problems that crop up once the affair ends and the WS leaves the marriage. I think it was a healthy dose of reality.<p>I by no means want to imply that I'm happy to hear that someone who ended up with WS is having issues. I identified with her because my exOM and I had listed the blended family issues at the top of our pile up for why our relationship, in the end, would not be good for anyone involved.
I'm still not sure if she is engaged or married to her guy but she was here seeking information and in turn, helped me in further validating my decision to rebuild my marriage. <p>I wish SOW22 the best of luck and happiness to her and all involved in her situation.

SOW<p>This site is for building marriages. Your thread was probably locked because you are not married nor do you have an OC situation as a result of infidelity.<p>If you are living with a man who was married to someone else and he divorced her and is living with you, one of the consequences of his actions will probably be not getting his way on the custody arrangement. No court is going to take away a Mother's child just so it is convenient for the abandoning spouse.<p>It just sounds so incredibly cold and cruel to me that you are advocating and even pushing for custody of this woman's child (ren) when this is the time she and the kids need to band together for some stability and nurturing so they can help each other get through this most horrendous portion of their lives. So tragic.<p>Catnip =^^=<p>[ June 05, 2002: Message edited by: catnip ]</p>