Dh and I have always had a rocky marriage, mainly due to his lying and he cheated on me also. He is over seas right now and we dont get a chance to talk much. I am a college student and I have found myself beginning an interest in a guy in one of my classes. I get the feeling that it is mutual since he tends to look at me with interest. I have also developed an interest in wanting to bungee jump, sky dive, ect. I am turning 25 soon, a quarter of a century old <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> . I am also thinking about buying new "cool" clothes to take advantage of my still there figure. What is wrong with me???? I do love my husband but when I think about my future, I think about being somewhere else and with someone else. We started a new church while he was home and I really do want to be a good Christian. I read this site to repair our marriage, but he is not here now, so there is not much I can do.

How do I make myself happy where I am?

<small>[ September 09, 2004, 06:26 PM: Message edited by: becka4321 ]</small>

As a man who got married at 25 (I'm 29 now), you probably should not have gotten married so young. I know I resented my lack of freedom and I know a few young couples where this is also an issue. There's no right age, IMO, just a right time for you. I'd recommend getting to a counselor, as they will help you figure out what works for you.

Well, you have a choice. God gave us free will.
Indulge yourself or not. Just remember every decision had a consequense, and be prepared to deal with that.

Your "precious child" is an inocent hostage to your actions.

My comment to you is.........if you want to sleep around, get a divorce.

IdahoImp

I feel alot the way you do. The whole wanting to go out, doing things, I even told my husband that I might as well try to look good now while I somewhat have it, 20 years down the road I'm sure I won't look this good. I'm also in the mode of trying anything, also feel like my life is going nowhere with h, and also feel like getting close with someone else. This all sprang about becouse of my h a in june of last year.

Here is my advice. Tell your husband. See what he does. If he comes home if he can (I don't know if he is military) then good for you becouse he shouldn't be away while his family is in crisis, his family should be more important then everything else. If he wants a future with you this should get his butt in gear to save your marriage. I think you need to really set a plan up and really work at it.

I read that unless you stop yourself now it will be harder to do later when things progress. It sounds like you don't know yet if you want this marriage to work. I think you owe it to yourself to give it one last good chance before you do anything to find what you really want, if things can get better.

You said he cheated, how long ago? Did you recieve counseling? This only happened to me after the affair so maybe this is another stop on the way to recovery or something. Also it would be a good idea to drop the course. You are too weak right now to restrain yourself, you don't even know if you want to. At the very least you need to avoid him. sit opposite of him and be the first one out the door.

I give this advice becouse this is what got my h butt in gear.

Just to let everyone know, I posted this in the General topics and got some great advice. I realized that I was being very selfish. I have always wanted my marriage to work. I have never wanted a divorce. I was just feeling sorry for myself. Easy to do for me. I did talk to dh after I got feedback here, and everything is going pretty good right now.