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Hello all: I've been lurking on this forum for a while, but I'm not sure if my situation applies or not, so I haven't posted or responded here yet. <p>I'm a BS, but the OW was someone my H had 2 kids with years before he and I met and married. My H and OW resumed their relationship beginning during the last month of my pregnancy with H and I's first child, and ending 4 mos. later when H refused to leave me and our newborn son for OW and their 2 kids. H and I now have 2 kids of our own, and we still have to deal with occasional "mind games" by the OW. Of course, when children are involved, the No Contact Rule is hard to apply -- and I still trigger every time H or I have contact with OW. <p>Am I welcome here even though H and OW's 2 kids were not a direct result of the A that affected my marriage?<p>Thanks for your time.
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while your situation is a little different your welcome on any of the forums and will get some great support from many here. You still deal with your husbands infidelity and have to deal with his children and OW at times.
SO let me SAY WELCOME TO MARRIAGE BUILDERS. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]
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Waterrabbit,<p>I too say that you are very welcome here! Everyone's situations have little different twists to them, but they all have the same elements, OP, OC, BS and WS. Please, feel free to share your concerns, or even just come here to vent to keep the LB's out of your M!<p>Tigger
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WaterRabbit,<p>Welcome!<p>I'm in a similar situation. H had two children (actually 3 one died) with OW before we were married (or together) and when our ds was about a year old he had an affair with OW producing yet another!!! (In my mind there is NO SUCH THING as ACCIDENTALLY getting pregnant 7 times....this was her 7th!). I can understand all that goes with what you are dealing with.<p>I hope you can find some strength and peace here.<p>Take care,
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WB,
Of course you are welcome. We all have a different twist on our lives, but as tiggerj said, we all share the same sad core elements which qualifies us.
I'm sure you will get alot of support here.
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By all means WaterRabbit, you are quite welcome here.<p>Anyone dealing with recovery from infidelity and dealing with OW/OC issues is a friend of mine. Regardless of the order in which the tragedies happened!<p>I'm sorry I didn't greet you sooner, I've only been available to pop online for short spurts.<p>How often do you and H have visitation? And does all visitation include contact with OW? Who is the contact person for arrangements? Any great tips on how you deal with your triggers from contact with OW?<p>Forgive all the questions.... if you have any of me, just shoot. Otherwise just read my million and one posts! [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Looking forward to getting to know you.
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