i have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we have lived together for the past 3 years. Prior to our crisis we had a very loving and very together relationship, but now i find that there is a wall between us. He has become very withdrawn and will not talk or show any emotion towards me. He can not even make eye contact when we speak. I have tried so hard to bring him out of this depressive state but to no avail. He says he has to think about things, but for me it is very lonely as he willnot or cannot discuss his concerns. I feel so lonely and very lost and dont know what to do for the best. I dont want to walk away from our relationship, but the sheer effort of trying to keep things together is driving me crazy. I feel so rejected and really need some physical comfort, but when i go for a kiss or a hug he just stands there emotionless. Am i doing the wrong things? should i question him? however i do feel questions will only push him futher under and into total withdrawal. Just...WHAT CAN I DO

Welcome to marriagebuilders. You have come to a good place. You might try posting on general questions since there is more traffic there.

Could there be another woman? It sounds like there might be. When they are having an affair, they completely change into another person. They are cold and uncaring.

But anyway, you can start in Plan A. Read all about it on the link in my signature line.

You are feeling terrible right now, but things will get better.