Im so frustrated with this mess....hubby is doing the q&a's now at his own pace which is fine...my frustration is that ever since he got back and had to tell me the truth since it may be his kid...is he keeps trying to find things on me...he's going out of his way to try and prove i cheated or am cheating too...almost like it would make him feel validated in some strange way. I have not even come close, and it bothers me that he is doing this b/c he has always know w/o a doubt i never would nor could...im getting tired of the accuasations...when im being even a sweeter wife then before so not to run him. He really wants to find something on me, he is so desperate too...hes reaching and making things up to try to get me to "confess" im guessing but its starting to hurt, and make me angry b/c he's more worried about getting something on me then he is on fixing the reason he cheated in the first place.
help before i kill him...j/k
h n l

HurtNLost,<p>Are you and your H in MC, if not I would definitely find someone qualified to help. My H went through the same thing never wanting to take the blame for his actions. When we went to MC she slowly got him to realize he is responsible for his actions not anyone else!<p>DU

Wellll,
You don't look underneath the bed unless you've hidden there before!?!<p>Try not to let it bother you, just seems like another (weak) way that a WS would avoid taking responsibility for their own guilty actions.<p>Sorry you are going through this. I don't know how else to handle it except just let him do whatever he needs to do until he finally is willing to take responsibility for HIMSELF!<p>He's feeling like such the bad guy and it's difficult for him to face it. That's what it seems like to me... And if he can make you seem to be a bad guy too, he wouldn't feel so guilty!!<p>Maybe he just might need a little wee bit of reassurance of your love and forgiveness???

no we are not in MC, i did ask him to go...his reply was why should he go he's not the one having a hard time dealing with it. At first he didnt want to do the Q&A''s either but w/o pushing him he came around so maybe he will on the mc also. I agree that he's probalby acting this way so that he doesnt feel so quilty but its hard to deal with that on top of the everything else too. Im standing by him and still love him he knows that...im working hard on the forgiveness part...but im not attacking him either. And he will admit that also.
h n l