This is hard for me to post on here, but I need some help. Not only am I trying to save my marriage, but my wife has decided she also wants to address the sexual abuse in her past. We both agree that it was a huge factor in our problems. We have both started counseling seperatly. She feels she needs to address that before we can address us. Anyone on here married or divorced from someone who was/is a survivor of sexual abuse? I could really use some advice, and someone who understands what Im dealing with. Thank you

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What does "bump," mean? I have heard and know of a couple of people in marriage and single that was from an abusive relationship or molested when they were younger. If you are not married then it is wise to deal with the issues first. Deal with the issues your wife is having now from her past and then deal with your marriage issues. Being supportive is also working on your marriage without putting pressure on your wife. I pray that things get resolved and restored in your marriage.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by john3479:
<strong> This is hard for me to post on here, but I need some help. Not only am I trying to save my marriage, but my wife has decided she also wants to address the sexual abuse in her past. We both agree that it was a huge factor in our problems. We have both started counseling seperatly. She feels she needs to address that before we can address us. Anyone on here married or divorced from someone who was/is a survivor of sexual abuse? I could really use some advice, and someone who understands what Im dealing with. Thank you </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Find an IC who does EMDR work - it is a type of therapy that can break through to one's inner mind and actually help change your mindset. I can't explain it very well, but having been there and done that, I know it works.

Deja vu,

What is EMDR?? I have never heard of it.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by john3479:
<strong> Deja vu,

What is EMDR?? I have never heard of it. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Here's what I just posted on EN:

Some of us were talking yesterday about EMDR - and I couldn't remember the author(s) of the book on it. Here is the reference: "EMDR Eye Movement Desensitation & Reprocessing" by Francine Shapiro PhD and Margo Silk Forrest. Published in 1997. "The breakthrough therapy for overoming anxiety, stress, and trauma."

As a recipient of this therapy, I can say it really worked for me. It helped me break through things I could not get in touch with otherwise.

This url will take you to the Amazon page that reviews this book: http://tinyurl.com/4c2r5