my wife of 12 years and i are currently separating. she has decided to leave because i was not meeting her emotional needs. we still live in the same house and she has started seeing someone. They talk on the phone (while i'm there), she sleeps with her cell phone (in case he calls) and they are going away for a weekend together soon. we're still good friends and someday hoping to reconcile.

the problem is, i still deeply in love her and my heart is being torn out. i'm not sleeping and just very very down.

does anyone have any words of wisdom to help ease the pain?
dave in new zealand