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#81296 10/21/04 06:09 AM
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Can anybody help me? My wife gets messages from a friend (she says a girl) from her work. Etc. "*** Quickly, grab the kisses, for you are so damn quite."

I do believe her when she says they are from another women friend, but being a man I find it not normal. Am I wrong or should I worry?

I found out she had an A with another M about 2 months ago. We are coping, and now this...

PLEASE help!

#81297 10/22/04 09:36 AM
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Hello,

Your wife had an affair only two months ago and now getting sexual messages from someone else she claims is a girl? My guess is that it is from another guy as well or possible a woman. The fact is that she has cheated and betrayed you so it would not be surprising that she is continuing the affair or has started another one. What were the consequences to her affair? I would suggest counseling but it sounds like she does not really care about your feelings. She should be doing everything to show her remorse and regain your trust. It does not sound like she is doing any of this. You need to deal with the aftermath of the affair and decide if you can ever trust her again.
I wish you luck.

#81298 10/23/04 07:09 AM
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Hello there,
So how long have you & your wife been married? Do you know who her friends are and can she put a name to the woman she is talking about? Knowing who the person is might be reassuring. Also this type of comment normal from your wife to her friends & visa versa.
I myself am very used to speaking with my girfriends this way so I don"t find it abnormal. O.K.... so now, about the affair she had, I think you two should go to counselling because you need to find out what went wrong with your marriage in the first place so that you can work on these things. There are needs you BOTH have not been able yo meet for one another which need to be looked at and worked out.

Peace,
Odyssey

#81299 10/23/04 08:28 AM
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You have two affairs here in a very short time, one on-going, (or one that never stopped). Click on the link in my signature line. Read the Plan A stuff first.

#81300 10/26/04 04:29 PM
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Man wow, what a blow.
I hear you my advice would be to confront her with this. My mistake was twevel years I confronted my wife and she confess. Things changed for a little bite and we swept it under the rug until Jan of 2004. For about six months I thought she was having an A. I prayed about what to do ask friends to pray for my marriage then a friend say that the best thing to do was to confront her with it. That would be the only way to find the turth. I was hurt to find out the turth. We been in MC for 9 months and things are slowly getting better. There is a lot to work on we both have our own issuse to work beside the marriage issuse. Let me know how things go or if you need to talk. You can email at vodoocoac@aol.com


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