My h got a sms on Saturday night that read " How was your Thursday night & Chilli Bar. Buffy" Chilli Bar is a pub and I was under the impression that my h had been working on private work Thursday night. I then phoned the number ... no answer. The person gave a miss call back. I then phoned again and she answered.I enquired who she was and she said that her name is Buffy and that she met my h through Paul. I told her that I found it quite strange the my h hasn't told me about her and she said that she saw him at Chilli Bar on Thursday night and just wanted to know how is night was. I told her that I would ask me. I then went into our bedroom and told my h that I needed to talk to him. I enquired about her and the SMS and he told me that it was Jerome's friend. I then said that she had told me that she met him through Paul (It didn't click with him that I had actually spoken to her. I showed him the sms and then he told me that it was just an automated sms and that he gets lots of those during the month. I asked him again so that I can be clear about what he was saying. I was so shocked that he had lied to me directly to my face without blinking.I told him that I had actually spoken to her. He then got angry at me and then we continued to get into a major argument where he told me that I treat him like a child and who the hell do I think I am. I told him that I am his wife and that I have every right to know what is happening. He told me that I am skating on thin ice and I told him that I am not scared of his threats. He was pointing his finger in my face at this stage. I went to the kitchen and the argument continued. He then came out of the bedroom came into the Kitchen and pushed me saying that now I can take over the responsibilty of the house. He went to the bedroom, packed his clothes and left. He ended going to his parents which inturn came over to me to find out what is going on. They told me that they have taken his car keys because they do not want him to drive around in his state incase he goes on a drinking spree. He came home on Sunday morning to fetch his laptop and cell charger when he left he told me to make arrangements to transfer the bond payments onto my name. He came back later that day, left to fetch my mom from work then brought her down to us. He had told my mom that I keep accused him of sleeping around and not keeping up his side of the deal to provide as a husband and that he doesn't see fit for this marriage anymore. My mom was shocked but wanted to know my side. After he took her home he came back but slept in the spare room.

What do I do, we haven't spoken since and I still don't know who this Buffy person is.

stay strong and hold the line.
He will come around if you stay strong and don't budge on your position. He is acting like a little kid who can't have his way.

Just keep acting like you aren't even paying attention to his little "tantrum" and you will notice him pursuing you..

Thanks so much. This makes me feel a bit stronger. I am considering marriage councelling involving both of us.