Havent heard from you in a while just wanted to say I hope things are well for you both.

I was thinking of y'all also and pray that all is well with you both.

Hugs and prayers,
Twiisty

mo5 and twisty,,,,, thank you so much for your concern. it is nice to know their are people who care about us. very briefly i have been lurking often just have not been in the mood to type. for me it is a lot of work and my pointer fingers get very tired. i have read some things that made me see red and some that have helped me calm down. fh doesn't read nearly as often. i have been very angry since om attempted contact with fh. even though she made no effort to communicate at all with him. well i will try to write more later as it is a war trying to keep grace away from the keyboard.

Pops,

I too often wonder how you are both doing, and was glad to see your response. I understand about the frustration/anger about xOM trying to contact fh, but it is great that fh didn't respond, and is standing by her no contact! I also understand about keeping little fingers away from the keyboard, as Abbi is over here with her index fingers, trying to tap the keyboard and get my attention, so this will be short. Let fh know that we are thinking of you both!

Tigger

well it will be a little easier to give a quick update since fh has grace off to the store with our oldest d. she is expecting her 2nd baby any time now. my oldest s had his 2nd baby 1 month ago. this will make 5 grandchildren with my sil's little girl. i am wondering if i will be able to surpass my dad's record of 27 grandchildren and 4 great grandchildren. time will tell.
we have had a couple of hard weeks. after om had a friend contact fh for him i was very upset to say the least even though fh made it clear she wanted no part of him and he had no business in our business. well then a few days later they see each other when she drops our son off at school. he attempts to wave her over so they can chat i quess. she says she just ignored him and drove away. this part is good my problem is she didn't tell me about the 2nd part for about 1-1/2 to 2 weeks later. she said she didn't want me to get so upset that i did something stupid and went to jail. her keeping this from me really sent me thru the roof. 1 - she took my choice away of how i would handle it. 2 - she was not being open and honest with me and i went straight back to a year ago with her with holding info for my own good. 3 - in our 22 years of marriage i have never gone out and beat anyone up. what kind of trust does she have in me. 4 - it just made me feel disrespected and like my opinions didn't matter to her.
as of last week she had not filed for cs. we have gotten a month behind in the morgage (which i will be able to catch up with tis week). she is constantly aksing me for money and grumbling of how behind we are yet she hasn't worked in a year. when this came to a head back then she agreed not to return to that place of employment. but it was her decision not to return to work at all until this sept. she never discussed it with me. with all this happening i went down to the court house and picked up the divorce packet so i could proceed with that portion of our life. i felt i needed to start the procedure to protect myself. now she has gone and gotten her papers for cs and has started to fill them out. she gets mad at me because she says she doesn't know all the imformation and asks me what to fill in. i tell her i don't exactly know i'm not an attorney. sometimes i feel that she didn't need my help to get into this mess so why does she need my help now. (just venting). she said she hadn't started the cs papers as she wanted to let me make sure i really wanted to proceed with it. she never asked to talk it over she just procrastinated without discussion. waht kind of respect is that? any how we talked this weekend and i told her that i just don't feel like i am important to her.
this crap can be so frustrating. i feel that she thinks if we don't talk about anything it will just dissappear. wrong. grace is just a happy little peanut but i am not the kind to steal this mans child. if he chooses not to be involved then i will be there for her. if he chooses to be involved then i will be there for her. so let's get on with the paper workso we can move forward.
mo5,,, just wanted to tell you that i admire the way you have handled your m/oc/om situation. i don't feel that i will go as far as you with the parties together but i can live with this as long as it is completely out in the open on both sides. he will be dad when he has grace and i will be dad when she is with us.

gotta go for now. pops

pops
I dont think most people would like this way of doing things I think we are over the top many times pops OM feels we were together so many years why shouldnt he and I parent openly together as friends and frankly I see it taking a alot out of me and I am not as comfortable with it as he is. He says it is no big deal and I try so hard to work to keep peace among every one, The other day my husband, my self and d had lunch with OM, they wanted to talk business, and today I find out husband called him to ask some questions about business again.
I am not comfortable with that and I dont like his wife calling all the time and chatting on line with me, I dont want to share a party, I dont feel like making nice for an entire day with his family and my family, But I will , but I think next year I will suggest a public place, I wanted to do it in a public place, But nope he wants it in his back yard and he wants all my family there.

I think what you are doing with grace is wonderful and Like you my husband does the same, if the OM does not want grace that will be his loss, But will make life less hard on you and full house.
sorry about the whining, I am just moody over the day and having one of those days where I just want to run away.. you know those days right... haha
I will try and post something more focused later. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> I do have some more thoughts about this, but seem to be focussed on my problems and cant word what I want to say.
so I bid you good night, and I am so glad your together and working, and congratulations on the grandchildren.
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