Help me, please. I need that referral as soon as possible. The crap hit the fan last night big time, as I found ex(?)OW's cell phone number in his outgoing call log. That in itself is not so bad, but he had saved her number on his cell phone under the name of a business contact. He had agreed to let me know of any contact he had with exOW or their 2 kids, though he broke this agreement in Jan '02 almost resulting in me divorcing him. He said back then that he was sorry and that it would never happen again, but obviously nothing's changed.

At least last night he admitted that he has no intention of ever honoring this agreement, as he firmly believes that his business with exOW and their kids is none of my business. I've told him that a policy of total honesty and openness about his contact with this woman and their kids is the only way I can stay in this relationship. Too bad that he had just started the chapter about Honesty and Openness in the HNHN book, not that I think he's really reading it... just moving the bookmark to make me think he's tryin to finish it. The only thing we were able to agree on last night was that neither one of us is willing to budge on this issue concerning contact. He doesn't want to divorce, as we only have one car and it's mine from before we married, and he's already paying 44.6% of his gross income to child support... when I file it will push him to the max of 50%.

I don't want divorce; I just don't see any way out of this roadblock at this point. And yes, I was LBing like a MF last night. But he held me last night when we got in bed and continued holding me when I started crying. And we're still going to dinner and a concert tonight which was supposed to be our third wedding anniversary celebration. I'll try my best not to LB tonight. Please give me a name or two, Twiisty, or someone I can call to find that's a decent MC. Time is of the essence.

WaterRabbit

Waterabbit..

I'm sorry that I didn't get to you sooner...my two older girls came back from a visit with their bio-dad...their first and I have a sick mini-me right now....along with my anniversary weekend...it was busy, busy....busy.....

I apologize...please forgive me....
I'm also sorry that things aren't going too well for you and your H at this point.

Do you have the book, "surviving an affair" by Doctor Harley? In the back is an 800 for referrels to MB counselors that practice the MB principles.

You can e-mail me at cajun_Honeybee@hotmail.com

and I will e-mail you privately about some more counseling info. if I can find it...do you have insurance? Can you find any in your area?

I'll look for your e-mail...

Hugs,
Twiisty