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#813871 07/31/02 12:34 AM
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I need some help. I found out I am pregnant and am due in January. Well my boyfriend is Catholic and I am Christian. His parents do not agree with that and a few other things. Recently, we got engaged, because we want to raise this baby together and have a family and home to come to after its born. However, we aren't getting married until March 2003. Is it wrong to go ahead and buy the house and move into in within the months of Oct and Nov, even through we aren't officially married yet. Is there something sinful to Catholics about doing it this way?

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Welcome to MarriageBuilders. You've stumbled into a forum that mainly deals with the issues of pregancies and children that have come from affairs, although the Pregnancy/Child title doesn't really tell you that...

I'd suggest that you also post your story over on the Emotional Needs forum---you'll get more people looking at the post over there.

On to your question. There's actually nothing 'sinful' about cohabitating with another person, either from a Christian or a Catholic perspective. On the other hand, there definitely is something sinful about sex outside of marriage, and it appears that you're already guilty on that count.

What I'm guessing that your BF's parents are upset about is the fact that you are pregant (and that the two of you are having premarital sex), and perhaps the question concerning whether you will be willing to raise the child in the Catholic faith. It might help to smooth things over if both you and your boyfriend were willing to listen to your future in-laws objections (without getting defensive), and perhaps then sit down with a parish priest to deal with the upcoming wedding, baptism, and the issues of your faith.

The bottom line is that when you two are married---you'll be responsible for each other. To sustain and grow your love for each other and your love for this child. However, the practical issue is that it will help to have both sets of parents supporting this marriage---and so I'd work very hard to see if you can't do so.

#813873 07/31/02 10:51 AM
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Hon, I am Catholic and cohabitation in and of itself is not a sin perse. However premarital sex is. And the idea that you have already done it so oh well does not negate the sinfullness of the act. The cohabitation and the sexual act become synonomous and corrupt each other. I wish you luck in your marriage however. If you want to further discuss Catholocism or have any questions feel free to email me. I am the religous education director for my parish. Best Wishes. ayslyne@yahoo.com


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