Ok, this weekend when catching up on my baby books (i was two years behind!) I ran across baby pictures of OC that OW had sent a while back.

Showed them to H and asked him what he wanted to do with them. (for those who don't know DNA proved OC is NOT my H's)

He said to give them back to her, but not throw them away. I told him I'd mail them.

So what do I want from you guys... Suggestions on what to write on the note. Many of you know I'm still pissy that she hasn't apologized to me for all she's done to my family by pointing the finger at my H when there was a possibility he was not the bio-dad.

I'm usually quite catty and clever when it comes to stuff like this, but I'm at a loss.

Catnip, I know you got something under you're paw ... you are good at stuff like this!

Let me know ladies,
Z.

I dont think any thing needs to be said.. How about.. I thought you might need these back.. ......says it all. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Now Mo5, you know I'm trying to be catty and being nice isn't exactly apart of that.

Lemme have this one ... I've always been sooo nice and so respectful of her being the "baby's momma" can I at least get one jab in?

You can't say it isn't warranted.

I know it isn't very Christ like, but darn, sometimes a woman just wants to be BAD!

Hey I could be super bytch and go after her for all the money she extorted. I'm letting her off easy by giving a snide remark or too.

LOL,
Z.

well if you must How about

Giving her the pictures and telling her to buy some frames for them on you.

The reason I dont think any thing needs to be said is.. sending them back should say it all.. she isnt completely stupid she knows she screwed up.
I certainly wouldnt want to take your crowning moment from you. WE all have our catty side.. yes even me <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Now that's the spirit Mo5, I knew you had it in you!

Thanks, I like that one.
Z.

why don't you make about 5 or 6 copies of each picture and put each group into a separate envelope, address each envelope to a different male you know she is friends with, place all the envelopes into a large envelope addressed to her with a small note saying "happy hunting."

pops

pops,
I like that one! LOL

Dawn

LOL..Pop's I like that one too! Zee I have to give you my suggestion behind the scene don't want to offend any one. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Tee

There must be another way to return them where you won't have to spend one cent or one more minute of your time... You're probably at a loss because you know that .37 and an envelope is way too much to spend on this person at this point. She simply ain't worth it!

What if you both returned them? Maybe dropped them off at her door? H waiting in the car while you ring the bell and hand them to her--face to face... Don't say a word, maybe just let her do the talking, if she can fix her mouth to say anything??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Zebra,
How about enclosing a note that says,

"Please find enclosed your baby pictures. I would have mailed them to the baby's father, but I, like you, have NO idea who that really is."

With love,
cd

"Please find enclosed your baby pictures. I would have mailed them to the baby's father, but I, like you, have NO idea who that really is."

CD,
That is classic! Love it.
Tina

Zebrababy, I like the one where YOU drop 'em off with H in the car saying " Better luck with your next try"

Or you can do nothing and simply throw the things away....you owe her nothing, not even the pictures.
love
Debi

I like CD's idea.....knocking on the door and handing her the pictures.
That is classic!!!!!

Hugs,
Twiisty
Whatever you decide to do, please let us know what goes on!!!!

although I hate to rain on your parade.
The best revenge is living well.

Words do not have to be spoken..Just the fact that you and your husband are recovering and moving on is all that you need.

Sometimes less is more.

Well, I've been off the board for a few days (computer down) and seemed to have missed this auspicious opportunity. If I am not too late, I can add a thought just for fun, however, cdcollins has the best suggestion thus far.

I feel sorry for the kid but since it is such a young child, she/he won't feel the sting of embarrassment, so I guess we don't have to worry about that like we would with an older child or teen.

I'd send her a Thank-you note to thank her for making you look so good to your husband that your marriage has grown beyond anything you could have imagined and that she is responsible for this. But, that's kind of silly and childish...

If this were my opportunity (and, oh Dear God, how I wish it were) I would "invoice" the bytch. I would send her a professional statement akin to one you receive from any of your bills. On the statement would be the grand total of all monies you have paid her and all monies you have spent on said child. I would include interest calculated at credit card level with the grand total due and payable along with punitive damages (pull a figure out of the air like the Hearing Officer did at our CS hearing) to your family and marriage and mark it "Copy sent to John Smith, Attorney". Include the pictures with the statement and no other note or dialog, unless you want to incorporate cd's rather stinging comment for fun.

Put the Extortionist on the run...give her pause to worry whether or not she is going to be jailed for fraud. And then, sit down with your Spouse and decide over a cup of coffee how far you wish to pursue this retribution. Maybe you just want to put it all behind you and forget it and move on and concentrate on the two of you and your family and revel in your new found appreciation of each other.

As happy as I am for you, Z...I am GREEN, absolutely GREEN...hahaha. I sometimes fantasize about getting the news you did and my reaction and my joy. Oh, Z...(sigh) You must be so blissed to be so blessed.

Love

Catnip =^^=

No, no, no!! Living well is by far the best revenge. If you send a letter outlining how great your marriage is, it will be interpreted to mean how NOT so great you or or marriage are.
I know you have an opportunity here, but I think Momof5 is absolutely correct. Show her how you and your H have moved on. Wish her and child well, give her back the pictures, and continue to maintain your dignity. No flaunting, for if you do, while it may be fun and feel good to let her know how happy you are, she will think you are insecure and still obsessing over her. Don't go that route.

<small>[ August 08, 2002, 08:18 AM: Message edited by: CMiranda ]</small>

You guys may think this is a great opportunity, but If you respond in any way, cmiranda is right, she will see you as insecure and pathetic... we arent saying this because we are taking up for her... just telling you the effect it would have.

Zebrababy, show you have more class than she does.

I can tell you that a couple of times OM'S wife has sent me a note or two and I ignored them but later they came back to bite her in the butt. She not only angered her husband , she made her self look silly and imature.. and I did not get upset or have a reaction except... oh well she is insecure, let her act crazy..

So all of you who think this is a good idea... are wrong and i know how tempting this is, heck I once had a baby shower given to me and the woman my husband slept with the night before showed up, but I didnt want to cause a scene and hurt all the ladies feelings for giving me the party so I smiled and barely made it through.
although you can be sure My husband got it when I got home. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

I think we sometimes think things we say will have a certain effect because we feel that way. But that is not always the case.

<small>[ August 08, 2002, 08:31 AM: Message edited by: mom of five ]</small>

Ok, Ok, I've got it...

Return the pictures with no note, but "accidently" include one of your husband and you and kids enjoying eachother.

Then, you prove you are living well without seeming desprate.....

EJ

On a side note, I would be hesitant to comment on any potential legal issue in writing to her or anyone. I don't know which ST you live in, but the case of fraud/extortion seems very weak. Did she present to your H any written documentation to indicate he was in fact the father of this child? Did he ask for any such evidence prior to paying money? Words mean little to absolutely nothing legally.

Just in case ya'll are wondering. I am still sitting on the pictures.

I haven't quite decided what my note will say. But I do know there will be a note.

I guess I'm just one of those people that HAVE to have the last word.

I don't know what it'll say, but it will be very nice, but she'll get my point. To the unknowing reader it'll seem like a friend sending her some pictures. But she'll know exactly what I mean.

I'll let ya'll know what I come up with when I decide.

Thanks for all the suggestions!
Z.