Stacia,

I was just thinking, isn't today the day that you get Lil Bit? If so, why is she going back to xOW's home for a couple hours, then coming back to your home? Why don't you see what you can do about that, or is it a time thing w/your work and such?

I am sorry that xOW is still showing her true colors, but at least H is telling you what's happening, and is "handling" it!

Did you get the camera yet? I was just reading your other post, and was wondering if the DC person has other children besides Lil Bit? Just wondering, because I remember when our S was about Lil Bit's age, and I had gone to a gym to work out that had a child care there. When I went to pick him up, he had been bitten by another child on the face! I was irrate! Especially when they didn't come get me when it happened! But, I was just thinking when you mentioned the hand print, and could it have been a child's hand?

I know that you have already been through SO much w/Lil bit and xOW! I remember in your first posts how Lil Bit would come to you with dried excriment caked in her diaper area! Her fingernails cut almost to the point of bleeding, or not cut at all, and totally dirty! And it may have "calmed down" a little bit, but, there is still too much to ignore! I hope and pray that xOW's treatment of Lil bit is seen for what it is by the courts, along with her past history of having one child already taken, and her refusing the parenting classes! I just hope it doesn't take too long!

I also hope that this new cycle is "fruitful" for you and your H! I know, that was on your other post, but it seems this is the post that is being active, so I figured I'd say it here.

I will continue to keep you and your's in my prayers!

Love,

Tigger

OB1,
I believe you are correct on this. I would probably feel the same way as Stacia because this woman is hitting on my H and you know that your H had sex with her before. This is hard on her. I understand where she is coming from.

Dawn

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OB,

Its going...
I concur, time for another Allegra and some more coffee...

Stacia,
I hope you know that I wish you the very best. I know OW has long HX of problems. I only hope that you can take one eye off of her to collect what you really need to close this deal if she is fact is abusive.

CM

Thank you OB1.
You hit the nail completely on the head!!!

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I am not arguing the fact that there must be “Proof” of abuse…
I know we must provide that proof in order for court to see what is happening.
WE are doing just that. Compiling the PROOF.

My motives are the same as any other mother.
I want my child (though she is not of my blood) to be SAFE.

I know of exOW’s history and it was NOT until I learned of this aspect, through our first attorney, that I even agreed to have contact.

I have become defensive on this subject because my “motives” were called into question.
Not to mention, exOW was going to be too close to my HOME for my own peace of mind. TRIGGER!

Yes, exOW tried to destroy my marriage.
Yes, she CONTINUES to try.
Yes, I hate this woman.
Yes, I wish there had never been the A.

NO, I do not want to “take her child.”
NO, I don’t want to “steal another woman’s baby.”

Yes, I want my own child.

Yes, I want to nurture and protect Lil Bit.
She is my H’s child. Just as much as my stepson.

I may be only a mother “part-time” but that does not mean that I don’t love these 2 children any less than ANY of you love your own children.
I have been a step-parent for 9 yrs. I may not have all the daily woes, but I have learned more than most “childless” women.

Mom of five said on another of my threads:
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> You have the right to have peace in your home with out the other woman being there </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">That is all I want. Peace without OW being there.
And I believe as Mo5 said… that is my RIGHT.
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Unsure:
We only have one car… I told H today if this arrangement continues, I want him to carry me to work so that he can take Lil Bit to a neutral place for the exchange on her “half-days.”

Tigger:
Yes, tonight begins our Parenting time. I asked the same thing. It seems rather silly to me. But of course, exOW is rather silly… and doesn’t think of what is best for Lil Bit, only what is going to get her the most time from H.
As for the Daycare… when Lil Bit got Hand, Foot and Mouth disease I asked about the daycare… I asked if the other children had come down with it. ExOW said that there are NO other children at the daycare.
Again… 8 months pg in Oct, then still 8 months in Jan… yet, there is NO baby.
Thanks for the prayers… Lord knows I need them!

Dawn,
Thanks for the understanding. That is all I ask.. Understanding.
I don’t expect everyone to agree with me… I don’t expect anyone to fully understand what I am going through… I just ask that those that read my story… UNDERSTAND what I am trying to say.

OB1,
You are an amazing lady. You show compassion all the time.
I appreciate your posts, on my threads and everyone else’s.

CM,
Thank you for posting.
I never meant to flame Mo5, and I guess my attempt at humor fell absolutely flat.

And lastly, Mo5,
I apologize for the way you took my attempt at humor.

no problem.. maybe we all tend to be a little suspicious of people after all every one has been through. I too am sorry I offended you.

I think sometimes as mothers we find it hard to believe a mother could treat her child in such away.. althought it does happen often. We just dont like to believe it.