I have been married for a little over a year but my husband and I have been together for a total of about 6 years and we are overall, pretty happy together. The summer of 2004, my husband made friends with a girl that started at his office. She came to our home, along with our other friends, for parties, etc. and we (a large group of friends) frequently went out together. I always had a bad feeling about her, but thought maybe I was being paranoid. I myself have male friends and do not mind if my husband has female friends. But my gut told me something was wrong with this one.

Last month, I found out from a friend of my husband's that she had made a pass at my husband (she tried to kiss him) and that he told her he was not interested and not to let it happen again (this happened sometime over the summer). I confronted my husband about this and he explained what happened and said that he felt that it was just a horrible mistake and she was so embrassed and that she regreted everything and nothing like that had happened since. I told him I was not comfortable having her around anymore since she obviously (to me) didn't respect me or our marriage. Since that time, he has not spoken to her and she no longer associates with us.

Two days ago, my husband and I had a discussion about the situation and he stated that he was sad to have lost her friendship and he wishes we could all be friends again. I told him she was never his friend or she would have respected the fact that he was married.

I feel like he may come to resent me for making him end his "friendship" and I am also so angry and frustrated that he would even consider having her in our lives. I know I can't make him think like I do, but am I crazy for wanting her out of our lives? Or should I trust that he knows her and that it really was a one time mistake?

Stick by your guns -do not let her in your lives if you value your M. Many years ago my BF made movie on my H and she is now his wife. I learned and swore I would never be in this again. Now many years later my new H had a friend in work and that has turned to a EA. He kept that a secret and anything kept secret in a M is for a reason. It is usually an A. I am knew but have gone thru with this in the past and now the present -stay strong the p[eople here are great stick with us.

I am sorry, but what is an EA?

An EA is an emotional affair. An affair not with a physical side but an affair where your husband is giving his affections and attentions to someone else...

I would say if she could honestly come to you and ask for forgiveness, than maybe consider giving her a second chance.

Ask you hubby if this girls friendship is worth the risk of it happening again. Yeah she might be fun to hang out with, but she obviously has feeling for him, so is it worth risking his friendship and your feelings again?

Does he really want to associate with people who do not respect your marriage? What would he actually be gaining out of it? And is someone fun to hang out with worth that?