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Okay I guess the depression part is starting or maybe it has to do with H's insistent that I'm to blame for most of this. Am I doing right by kicking him out since I recorded his call and know that once again (3X) he's getting back with OW? He seems to think that since he didn't touch her (yeah it was wrong is what he says) that it isn't that bad. Also, he says he's not giving 100% if I'm not (???) and neither one of us will budge on it so we're at a stalemate. Is this fog talk or am I being unreasonable?
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Dumplin,
Have your read the principles on this site? There should be no contact between OW and your H. You have done nothing wrong. It sounds like your H is still in the fog. Are you going to plan B?
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I don't know how I can completely Plan B since we have two kids. I would like to Plan B because I really don't want to talk to him right now. All he does is start fights when I talk to him. How do you do Plan B when you have kids without looking like the wicked witch of the south (can't say east or west)???? I told him not to call our house; to call his mother's (which she told me she was fine with) and now everyone is making it out like I'm the bad guy.
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I don't know if I should Plan A or B right now.
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dumplin,
It sounds like you want to do a Plan B.
What about having his mother be the go
between? And if that does not work just have as little contact with H as possible. Just talk about the kids.
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Dawn,
I tried the idea of his mother being go between and H said "H#ll no they are my kids and I'll call here when I d@mn well please." So I guess I'll have to go with minimal contact discussing the kids only (it may require a few hang ups like I've had to do today concerning the light company). Thanks for the support and the advice. I need it now and I'll probably need it later, lol.
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I replied to your email... but got a system error from your server.
I will try again later.
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Before you implement either Plan A or lan B, you have to understand the process and how it works. It is all available on this site and I encourage you to find it, read it, study it until you know it inside out before you make any huge decisions.
Your husband is behaving like a child and the things he is saying are amazing. You will probably have to do something drastic to preserve whatever is left of your marriage and that is where Plan B comes in. I won't go into lengthy explanations here but instruct you to find all the information at the home page of this site to guide you to the informaiton you need.
Now, do it right now and stay on it til you get it and then make your choices.
Catnip =^^=
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Stacia,
It looks like my mail is back up now.
Catnip,
I'm reading up on it and thinking.
With love,
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