Well, the second child is here.My husband's first son is 14 months and she got pregant after he decided to stay with me. I made the mistake of letting him divide his time between both families. She wanted their son to know his father so H went over there 3 nights a week to feed him, bath him and put the baby to bed. Now they have a girl. H moved in with them this summer after I got back from caring for my elderly parents out of state. He has been involved with moving them into a house, taking and picking up OW and OC to work and day care, and Dr. appts. He comes over to our house to take care of bills and be with our teenage sons. He has been confused about where he should be so far now he thinks it is best that we seperate. He knows I will always love him. I just pray he will come out of this MC before it is too late. The OW is so manipulative and selfish. They go to mass every Sunday as it that makes up for it. So, ow and oc are comming home this evening. H will come by here to co-sign a contract on a house for me. I never knew that my life would be such a soap opera.

Hi Angel,

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I can Understand your pain. I too never realized that my life would be such a soap opera. In fact I often think that my story would be a best seller with he right writer. I'm pretty new to MB's so I really don't have any advice to offer. But know that I've said a prayer for you and your family.

Robbed

Hello,
Sorry to say welcome! I really don't have much to offe except to read the principles on this site. My recover seems to be going at a snail's pace. Are going to Blan B? One OC is bad enough. They are some here that have two OC. So, maybe they will come along and help you.

It is usually slow on the weekends here!

Dawn

<small>[ September 08, 2002, 01:54 PM: Message edited by: Dawn71 ]</small>

Whoa this is deep

This made me take a real hard look at my situation also. exOw in my case is very manipulative also. Only difference is xOW
recently married a month after my H left her.

From what I here, she telling people if her Marriage doesn't work out she going back to my H.
H tells me he doesn't want her back. She was sleeping around on him. A person that cheats with you will cheat on you.

How is you son handleing all of this? I know it's devastating for you, when I read this I couldn't believe this. All I could say was WHOA.

I'm praying for you as we speak. Please check out plan B are you able to take care of yourself financially for the time being?

Please keep venting here thats what they tell me don't vent on him vent here with us.

<small>[ September 08, 2002, 03:02 PM: Message edited by: MALC ]</small>

Angel,

I am so sorry to hear about your situation.

I am one of the unfortunate MBs that have 2OC. Our situations are similar. Briefly, H had a 7+year A with co-worker, she had OC#1, I didn't have a clue, and when after 3 years he was ready to end and confess to me of the A she became pregnant with OC#2. That was about 17 months ago. We were trying to rebuild M, and it was a very difficult task.

That first year up till May this spring, we had visitation with both OC. I knew I had to give it a try. If I had my choice it would be no contact, but H was going to be involved no matter what, so I had nothing to lose but to try. I had a 27 year marriage at stake.

After not seeing enough progress being made as far as H was concerned, he resumed the A again. The constant presence of OW was to much temptation, still a co-worker. I told him after 2nd DDay I would try once more. But then OW finally admitted to H after 7 years her undying love...blah blah.

We are now informally separated, it has been 6 nights, and it is sheer hell for me. H still is in deep fog, has no clue what he wants. We still see each other, but it is so confusing. The most difficult part of this whole soap opera for me is I have only told one person of my situation. No family members have a clue that my marriage is even the least bit troubled, so this forum is my only support, and believe me they are the most caring group of men and women you could ever find. I thank heaven for all their help and prayers. Many will come along with advice.

Tina

See Angel your not alone.

(((HUGS))) <<<PRAYERS>>>

Read all the Plan A/Plan B information you can find on this website. Do a search and try to figure out a plan to recover your marriage if that is what you desire.

It sounds like your H is trying to do the right thing by the other child, but sheesh, at whose expense??? His first family's??? WHY????

I'm sorry, I know that question is never helpful, but perhaps you could show your H some of the Q&A's from this website on the very situation you are in "Pregnant With Lover's Child"--I believe that is the title and I believe there are two letters in that category.

Also order and/or read Surviving An Affair. Another thing, are you positive (through DNA testing) that the baby is even his???? What if he/she is not!!!!