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You know I think I need to implement Plan A Plan B.I know I said I was going to do this earlier but I fell short.

Well here's whats been happening. I talk to my SIL, she informed me that xow was pregnant. Now when she first found out she was pregnant xow told H she was pregnant by her H.

I guess xow didn't get the response, she wanted from my H now xow tells H she's 6wks pregnant and it my H child.
Xow got married 8/9/02 she also told SIL
she was seeing her H 6MOS while she was seeing my H.

My SIL is so angry with my H, she told me she never seen someone like him, to just let women tell him anything and he believes it. I never seen anything like this myself.

I just talk to H earlier in the day. H doesn't know that I know xow is pregnant.H promise to call me, I told H I was ready to file for a divorce and that I'll take care of all the paperwork in october .

H asked me is that what I want to do? I told H what do you expect me to do, You don't want me. I meant a guy who's around my age H asked how old was this guy I told him.

H told me look I'll call you back I'm in the barbershop getting ready to get my hair cut.
H told me he loves me and gave me his word that he will call me back.

I haven't heard from H since. A thought came across my mind maybe, he's trying to bait me in so I can get angry at him. Then he would use my anger as an excuse to do whatever.

I will not fall in that trap. I will get him with kindness. I have to try with all my strenght with no contact. I'm very weak in that area I do admitt.

At some point, I even feel sorry for him. Xow tells H she has to move and she need money. like I said befor H doesn't know that I aware of this information. I'm drained

<small>[ September 15, 2002, 03:41 AM: Message edited by: MALC ]</small>

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MALC,

I don't really have any advice for you right now; just wanted to let you know that I'm here and willing to listen. Stay strong!

With love,

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Thank you Dump
Just have to take this one day at a time.
You know, the question I have to ask myself is what was going through my mind when I meant my H.

I know I was on a rebound, But I've worn a many of shoes in my day, now it's my turn to try on more, (the law of reciprocity) what goes around comes around. I do not graciously accept but there is no getting around this.


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